"If you are trying to stop a "it makes me feel good" cycle that you feel is unhealthy/unwanted, then simply find what you are trying to smooth over or compensate for. Go back and take care of that.
Your appetite for the alternate…"
"standing back at the end of a long hard project and thinking "I built that".
Seeing my children come running as I pull in the drive at the end of a workday.
seeing my wife's eyes light up as I come in the front door.
"I find that having a supply of really good food to cook over the fire - salmon steaks are my favorite - and plenty of wine helps. You may want to take baby steps by going to a state park that has cabins you can rent. Once you graduate to tent…"