"By the description you've given of the scenario I would say you were in the right. You let your mother know that what she said was not courteous of her to say. Unless you used foul language towards your mother or called her names, then I could…"
"As far as approaching the conversation, I think the most important thing is to focus on solutions and compromise. It sounds like from her perspective, you attacked her character by telling her that she meant to demean your wife's ability…"
"Saulo Ribeiro's "University of Jiu-Jitsu" book explains what a lot of instructors don't: As a white belt, when you're rolling against more experienced guys, your job is essentially just to survive; maintain your composure,…"
That's a good plan. I am definitely not having problems deciding who will be mad at me: My wife is first and i would rather have my parents upset at me as opposed to my wife. and you're right, it might not be a…"