"With a divorce that fresh, he may still be in pain and the holidays will amp that. He may be burying his stress into work. My best suggestion is to point out to your beloved that people are twits and he may just be being silly.…"
"Regarding her feelings: listen, care, and don't fix her.
But if I had an in-law acting strangely, I'd be concerned. It could mean "No, don't include me, I'm going to be in Malawi herding goats"; "No,…"
"You are certainly correct that there's not enough info for the wife to determine intent and extent. But the emotions she is feeling are still valid emotions (of course).
Good point about the red flags. There's a possibility that he may…"
"This could be a simple miscommunication. There isn't enough information here to determine whether there is a definite issue or not. Is the father actually going to be stateside during Christmas? Is your fiancee spending the…"
"I'm sure this truly cut her deeply. It may be better to ask her what you can do to help her feel more supported. Sometimes, just asking how you can help can be supportive in itself. Let her know you are willing to support her.
I suspect you are…"