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Remembering Dad

This is a group for men who have lost their fathers. It is a place to mourn, celebrate, and remember our fathers and a place for men to share experiences and draw strength from one another.

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Started by Hunter. Last reply by Hunter Aug 16. 5 Replies

I just turned 19 two weeks ago. On January 31, 2014, my dad OD'd in his office at work in the middle of the night. I found out from his partner at work who lives in our neighborhood. I came…Continue

Mr Adventure

Started by Jim. Last reply by Scott J Aug 9. 1 Reply

I just lost my dad… this May (2015). It was a total shock and surprise. He was riding his Harley thru an area of Cherokee NC called The Dragon's Tail and went off the road for, as yet, unknown…Continue

Losing Father as Final Surviving Parent in Your 50s

Started by John Francis. Last reply by Kenneth Jul 10. 3 Replies

Brothers,Five months ago my Dad died unexpectedly.  I got a call from my brother, saying he was admitted to the hospital for shortness of breath, etc.  Immediately spoke with my sister (who had been…Continue

Tags: fifties, second, 79, guilt, 50s

rudderless

Started by Timothy Kusajtys. Last reply by Kenneth Apr 11. 1 Reply

      My Dad passed away suddenly in October of 2013.  He had been diagnosed with cancer in July of 2010 but was doing much better until August when the cancer had moved to his brain.  My two…Continue

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Comment by Paul MacAlindin on August 9, 2015 at 2:56am

What a wonderful group. My dad passed on New Year's Eve. He was admitted to hospital and a week later, was gone. He donated his body to St Andrews University for medical research because he wanted to be as useful after life as during it. My aunt organised a humanist celebrant for a memorial ceremony. You can see the text here, with pictures of dad's home village, Anstruther, and my aunt's formidable tractor collection.

Journey to the land that time forgot

The more I remember dad, the more I appreciate how much of him is in me.

Love to you all

Paul

Comment by Kenneth on March 19, 2015 at 12:04pm

Thanks Michael. It's still painful, but I suppose in light of everything, we're doing all right under the circumstances. You can really tell when people are praying for you.

Comment by Michael J. K. on March 17, 2015 at 1:36am

Kenneth I hope the next few months go okay for you and your mom.

Comment by Kenneth on February 12, 2015 at 11:58am

Thanks Ryan. I'm trying to do the right thing, and just take each day as it comes. Someone on here said it best, I am acutely aware of Dad's absence.

Comment by Ryan James on February 11, 2015 at 2:42pm

Ken, you're definitely doing the right thing. Offer your support and help and check on her as frequently as you feel you can. She'll come around and it will take time for her, and you to process the sudden change in life as you knew it, with your dad there. It's been 10 months for me since I lost my hero...everything you said, yes sir, it's true and you're spot on..i've experienced much of the same and still am. It never leaves you, you just sort of look at the calendar one day and half a year has passed, wonder where did it go.  You'll get there and it will process in stages, but his loss will be there forever. Just keep strong in faith and family, you'll move through time and get through.

Comment by Kenneth on February 11, 2015 at 1:18pm

Scott, thanks for confirming that I'm doing the right thing by giving Mama her time and some breathing room to process Dad's death, and her emotions, in her own way. I know we're both hurting, and ultimately we each have to find our own ways to reconcile this event in our lives.

Comment by Scott L Ferrell on February 10, 2015 at 6:48pm

You are doing the right thing. I backed off when my father died and I let my mother have her space. She will include you when she is ready. 

Comment by Kenneth on February 10, 2015 at 12:12pm

Today marks one month since I lost Dad, and I still can't really "accept" that he's gone. I feel like I don't really have anyone in my life that I can spill my guts to, and I am trying not to let it render me totally non-functional. Mama has enough on her plate right now dealing with all the legal issues, and she's dealing with her anger over Dad leaving her with so much debt. I am trying to give my mother all the emotional & financial support I can, but on some level, I feel like she's keeping me at arm's length right now. I don't know what else to do but give her space, and try to deal with my grief as privately as possible.

Comment by Edward Warden on November 14, 2014 at 8:35pm

Today I remembered something that my Dad said: We were on the base, and we saw a sign that said, "Free Leann Womack Concert."  "I didn't know that she was in captivity," he said.  He did have a good sense of humor.

Comment by Michael J. K. on November 6, 2014 at 6:27pm

Nov. 9th would have been my father's 77 birthday.

He died in 1975 Jan 21.

 

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