Out to Build Bridges


Out to Build Bridges

This is a GSRM (Gender Sexual Romantic Minorities or LGBTQ+) group.  But And straight men and cis-men are encouraged to join as well.

However, unlike the already established AoM group "Gay and Bisexual Men", this group is wide open, no privacy settings enabled.  

The overall purpose of the group is to encourage conversations between the straight and non-straight communities.  This already happens in AoM, but it is scattered.  And it can't happen in the private "Gay and Bisexual Men" group.

Debate is expected, but this is for building up bridges not tearing down people.

Main rule: don't be a jerk.

Members: 21
Latest Activity: 17 hours ago

Discussion Forum

What Would It Take?

Started by Ian Wilson. Last reply by Ricky 17 hours ago. 13 Replies

In those corners of our society (societies) where there is a rift, or canyon even, between the straight and non-straight folks... what would it take to bridge that gap?Continue

Expositions: Letting Others Know About Your Orientation

Started by Milo Morris. Last reply by ShirtlessGeorge May 25. 1 Reply

I started this thread so that sexual minorities here at AoM have a place to discuss coming out. From what I have experienced, there are as many different ways to make a disclosure about one's sexual…Continue


Started by Milo Morris. Last reply by ShirtlessGeorge May 25. 89 Replies

OK,This is related to the thread "Homosexual," "Gay," or What?...I'm puzzled by your definition of the word "homosexual." In common usage, it does refer to people, especially when its used as a noun.Continue

expectations to conform; is this offensive?

Started by Ian Wilson. Last reply by Regular Joe May 21. 20 Replies

in the General Discussion there is a conversation: "Thoughts on Sexuality: Does It…Continue

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Comment by ShirtlessGeorge on May 22, 2014 at 12:52am
I tried to deny it in my 20s when a friend asked me. My confusing post has been removed, meant to say that ignorant Bible thumping is a part of what made me afraid to tell anyone, plus the time period I grew up in. Stopped believing the Bible thumpers in the 2000s but still wasn't ready to tell anyone until 2010 when it slipped out to an online. Gradully came out to my high school classmates last year after my best friend found out after I was afraid to tell him, He told me he already knew and is okay with it, advised me not to tell my family just yet.
Comment by John Gardiner on May 21, 2014 at 5:56pm

I am gay man who come out only about 8 yrs ago and my ex-fiance (Female) is now my best friend and have had alot of positive things after coming and willing to help anyone in their time of struggle

Comment by ShirtlessGeorge on May 20, 2014 at 11:21pm
I am not out of the closet to my family, and probably won't be. I am out to some classmates from high school, and told some ex co workers last year. And I outed myself in my Art Of Manliness status, just won't be coming out in my Facebook status
Comment by ShirtlessGeorge on May 20, 2014 at 10:56pm
I wait until I am good and ready for people to know. As for my family, I think it's best to wait a while longer to say anything to them
Comment by Milo Morris on May 20, 2014 at 10:47pm

Dear George,

Welcome aboard. I hope that AoM in general--and this area of the site in particular--will provide helpful resources for you.

Good for you for having the confidence to express your sexual orientation. It can be a complicated and stressful process. And I know what you mean about the AIDS crisis. I came of age in the early 80s, so I remember the fear and trepidation. Thank God that nowadays there are effective treatments.

When it comes to letting people know about your orientation, I found it best to do it one person at a time. That gave me the opportunity to tailor each conversation, and express myself in ways that would work best for each individual. Nobody can really tell you how to disclose your orientation to another person: you know the qualities of your relationship with each individual better than anyone else. How I told my mother was different from how I told my father, which was again different from how I let each of my brothers and other family members know.

Comment by ShirtlessGeorge on May 20, 2014 at 9:57pm
Just joined, I was uncomfortable saying this to people out of fear, I grew up during the AIDS scare. my friend somehow found out, so I told all my high school classmates. And my family will be the very last to know since I don't know how they'll react, we never talked about this stuff growing up, so here goes.

I'm gay
Comment by Andrew on May 1, 2014 at 1:44pm

Just joined the group.  I think this is a great idea.

Comment by Ian Wilson on April 3, 2014 at 5:26pm

ok ok... confusing sentence was confusing and has been removed.  :)

Comment by Nate Thallas on April 3, 2014 at 7:10am

Great group guys!

Comment by Fraction on April 3, 2014 at 1:46am

I agree with JLP, I'm also a bit confused by this sentence of the group description:

"Therefore GSRM men who join are assumed to be out of the closet."

It's confusing because there is no requirement that group members self-identify one way or another, and no default way to make such an identification on this site, anyway. (Not that there should be...)

I think the "wide open, no privacy" says all you want to say on the subject. Leave out the assumptions. The level of participation (and sharing) is up to the members themselves.

Anyway, I hope people do participate. Thanks for setting it up.


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