Out to Build Bridges


Out to Build Bridges

This is a GSRM (Gender Sexual Romantic Minorities or LGBTQ+) group.  But And straight men and cis-men are encouraged to join as well.

However, unlike the already established AoM group "Gay and Bisexual Men", this group is wide open, no privacy settings enabled.  

The overall purpose of the group is to encourage conversations between the straight and non-straight communities.  This already happens in AoM, but it is scattered.  And it can't happen in the private "Gay and Bisexual Men" group.

Debate is expected, but this is for building up bridges not tearing down people.

Main rule: don't be a jerk.

Members: 38
Latest Activity: on Monday

Discussion Forum


Started by Milo Morris. Last reply by Michael J. K. Feb 24. 100 Replies

OK,This is related to the thread "Homosexual," "Gay," or What?...I'm puzzled by your definition of the word "homosexual." In common usage, it does refer to people, especially when its used as a noun.Continue


Started by Ian Wilson. Last reply by Aelfred Feb 7. 21 Replies

just going to throw this out there...this is not specifically directed at any comment, but i wanting to speak against some common myths that irk me when i hear them.for a bisexual, bisexuality is not…Continue

Marriage etc.

Started by David Johns. Last reply by Jack Bauer Dec 11, 2014. 2 Replies

Several years back I heard someone defend the right of sexual minorities to be married, using this train of thought which I would like to share here in the Out to Build Bridges group.Marriage is a…Continue

Tags: matrimony, marriage

Expositions: Letting Others Know About Your Orientation

Started by Milo Morris. Last reply by Milo Morris Nov 8, 2014. 4 Replies

I started this thread so that sexual minorities here at AoM have a place to discuss coming out. From what I have experienced, there are as many different ways to make a disclosure about one's sexual…Continue

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Comment by Aelfred on Monday
Coming out to my closest friend hasn't affected our friendship at all. I felt a lot better having told him, as for my parents I doubt they'll ever find out since they won't react well
Comment by Aelfred on February 20, 2015 at 11:51pm
Thanks because it wasn't easy to come out of the closet
Comment by Michael J. K. on February 20, 2015 at 11:50pm

Henry hugs and know you are my friend no matter what

Comment by Aelfred on February 20, 2015 at 11:19pm
I found myself trying to deny it again and claim I was bi sexual recently, but accepted the truth that I am indeed gay. once again denied it because of the time period I grew up in
Comment by Milo Morris on February 20, 2015 at 11:18pm

Interesting perspective, Ricky.

One of the big reasons I'm out is because I believe pretty strongly in truth, especially my own. I want people to understand me as me, not anything they might expect or assume because they see a black or homosexual man.

To your second point about using the word "husband," I think that we all have to use whatever word we're most comfortable with. In casual conversation I refer to David as "my man." If I'm being more formal, I use the word "partner." I don't think :partner is code for anything, its just popular usage right now. One of the things about the word :"husband" that makes me uncomfortable is its etymology:

"Middle English husbonde, from Old English hūsbonda master of a house, from Old Norse hūsbōndi, from hūs house + bōndi householder; akin to Old Norse būa to inhabit; akin to Old English būan to dwell"


What the etymology implies is that a husband is head of (or in charge of) the household, and that does not accurately describe my relationship with my man. We are equal partners in life.

Comment by Ricky on February 20, 2015 at 8:05pm

I'm out first because if you act as if you are ashamed of yourself -it just a matter of time until you feel that way.  I know some people assume that I am straight and I don't always correct them, but I don't want to have to pretend that my husband is my "room-mate" or that I care about that hot chick over there. I don't want to get asked why didn't I ever get married or your great with kids - why didn't you have any-  with people that I don't care about there is no reason to say much.  However one time a bank teller asked who the other person on my account was - I said my Husband.  Long be fore there was gay marriage.  I don't say partner or any of the other "code words" Husband is a perfectly fine word for a male marriage partner - doesn't mean I am his wife -  unless you just like those kind of ASSumptions.

Comment by Aelfred on December 2, 2014 at 9:50pm
Ill probably never come out to my parents, they both grew up in the 1950s and 1960s so they'll be too judgmental if I told them, but according to my sister they will still love me regardless
Comment by Will on December 2, 2014 at 9:43pm

I'm in a lot of groups.  Click  Join this Group, and you can post.  That's all you need.

Comment by Ian Wilson on December 2, 2014 at 9:19pm

i think if you are active in the group it makes you a member.  sorry that i don't know for sure.  i only admin one other group and it is completely closed.  this group is wide open.

Comment by Michael J. K. on December 2, 2014 at 8:42pm

welcome Danny and Michael.

not sure how you became a member Michael normally you click on the join button.

I think you can invite your friends, but not sure how that works.


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