This group is for men out there who have children and are looking for a better way to balance manhood with fatherhood
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Just joined. Great group. I am the father of four. Daughters are 19, 14 and 7. Son is 17. A gentleman said in an earlier post- "Don't Blink." I whole heartedly agree. Well into my career, I find that the work life balance seems to be leaning more on the "work" side than the "life" side. Get the time while you can- no matter how short the time is, no matter how much you may think its not a big deal... it probably is a big deal to them. I know of nobody who ever said on their deathbed, "Gee, I wish I could have spent more time at work."
Thanks for the advice Joe W, and Mr Bill. Have iPhone, with lots of games she likes on it (she uses it better than my wife, sometimes), and some tv shows she likes downloaded on it.
Being in Canada, crossing provincial borders isn't a problem with permissions. If I wanted to go to south (my hometown is at the top of HWY 61!) then I think it's necessary.
Also with the iPhone (and matching iPad back home) we can Facetime, which I intend to do whenever I get the chance (email photos, stuff like that).
Mr. Bill's comments are right on. Plus, don't forget to obtain a letter from your wife stating she's granting you permission to take the kid out of the state. My wife and I flew down to FL from NJ separately twice now and both times letters were needed.
As for the little one... got a tablet? Put some of her favorite movies on it. It'll entertain her when all else fails.
Create an agenda showing the wifey what you will be doing, where you will be going, how to get ahold of you (landlines) at each place you will be - in case the cell phone happens not to work or something weird like that. Hopefully it will help ease her anxiety a bit.
Take along copies of yours and hers birth certificates and marriage certificate to your wife along with any other possible official paperwork proving that she is your kid. I hope you never need to use it, but it's so much better to be prepared just in case.
Take LOTS of time to get to where you are going. Stress - traveling or otherwise - is a bugger. Keep in touch with the wife to let her know what you are doing. Those apron strings don't stretch very well. Especially that far away.
Have a laptop with Skype?
Oh, and give the young-un something to suck on or chew on in the airplane to help with the air pressure changes. Good luck man.
Hey guys, got a question/request for advice.
My wife and I have a daughter (17 mths old) and next week, I'm taking her to visit my father in my hometown (1000's of miles away... 4 hr drive + 4 + hour flight).
First, anybody here do something similar? Any tips/tricks? Shes' a bit of a daddy's girl, so I'm not TOO worried, but advice is being solicited.
Second, since my wife couldn't get leave, I'm doing this solo. However, her maternal instinct is kicking in pretty bad because if this. Any ideas on how to ease that? (A bit of background, I'm her 2nd husband, she has 3 children from her first, and they do have to go visit from time to time, which is partially why she is so wound up).
Thanks in advance guys!
Rite of passage update...building workbench with and for my sons. I built my first 2 weeks ago with their help. I told them I thought they were old enough (twins) to have their own workbench and they are helping with the construction. Should be done by tomorrow. We'll start some of their projects together and they'll graduate to their own projects in time. As part of the construction, passed down to them an older cordless drill/driver. They are thrilled and we'll use that tomorrow to finish the bench.
Thanks for the comments. I didn't have rites of passage activities growing up. They comment in the book that the rites of passage over the past few decades have been blurred. Not sure why that is, different reasons for different situations. Giving them more freedom is a great idea, as is reconditioning a muscle car when they're older. Near term we'll probably keep to camping, having them start the campfire themselves for the first time.
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