Greetings Gents,

 

I have been contemplating petitioning a local lodge for quite a while.  I have done my research and had a few long conversations with local masons regarding petitioning certain lodges and if they feel that I would be a good fit.   In my mind I am ready to petition and attempt my degrees if accepted.   I am attracted by the ideas of brotherhood, community service and self improvement that masony offers, but I am having a hard time comming up with a way to broach the subject with my wife.  I  know that if i can adequatly explain the lodge to her and help her to understand  better what the lodge stands for and what they do she would be behind me, but I am afraid that my lack of knowledge will be my down falling. 

I understand that certain aspects of lodge life and operations are not public knowledge, but can any of you help me to explain to her the functionings of the lodge so i can try to explain that what masonry is about. 

 

Also, a realistic expectation of time requirements for a semi active brother would be much appreciated (understanding that requirements are a "get what you give" type of thing.  in your lodge what is the general time requirement for a moderately active member)

 

Finally, how did you explain your desire to petition to your wife or significant other? 

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The lodge is a fraternal charity/community organization who meet regularly to work on projects and find ways to better the community. They want no repayment for their services and sometimes do work anonymously, which is why she hasn't heard of them. Tell her that.

On the flip side, they also have hokey rituals and carry on in funny hats and outfits during meetings. This is mostly for fun but also ties them back to other groups from history with similar missions in the community.

Masonry is not closed to women or children. In fact, many lodges have a complimentary women's group, The Eastern Star and children's groups, Jobs Daughters, Rainbow Girls and Dons of DeMolay.

During your initiation you will be there several hours a week studying to be accepted. Depending on what state you live in that process can take a day or a year, depending on regulations.

Once you are a full fledged member, you can just go to the monthly meeting....or no meetings....or you can get very active and spend lots of time there. Totally up to you.
That was a pretty straight forward answer. Much appreciated.

Yes, I'm curious as well. I met a mason the other day and struck up a conversation with him. I feel comfortable enough with him to see about initiation and look forward to hearing about your experience.

Have you pursued this at all?

Have you also talked to your wife about joining an Eastern Star Chapter? A lot of women in that organization can help you tell her more about what it is like being married to a Mason and even the perils of becoming a lodge widow if you decide to travel a lot. 

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