I'd really like to hear what other family men have to say. I've been finding that I'm at my wits ends more often than not lately and I know it's affecting me as a husband and a father.
Part of my problem is that I don't have anyone to turn to (cry me a river right?). I often times want to turn to my wife but sometimes she's the source of frustration and I don't want to make matters worse.
Now that I'm a member here I'll be coming to you guys instead.
The gym I go to is like a quiet sanctum....
I seem to just stick it out. Eventually the issue blows over, or your head clears and you can think straight. The solution will come, just leave it on the back burner for a while.
I don't think this will work for everybody, but it seems to work for me. I think it had to do with the resilience of my personality.
I usually head to the cemetary and talk to my dad. I don't know if it was just the quality of the advice that he gave me when I was younger or the quantity, but I can almost hear his answers and suggestions as I look out at the lake below. Sometimes it's those 'chats' that are the only thing that I think keeps me sane at times.
Sometimes it feels good to get a bunch of stuff out first by listening to really nasty music in the car, and really belting out the lyrics; or focusing with intensity of the issue while really ramping it up on the bike, and going with it. Screaming it out in a private spot (so nobody gets screamed at - thanks, singing lessons) kinda flushes it out. Blasts it out, actually.
Then I talk with a bunch of guys and a bunch of girls I trust, and crack some jokes to keep them engaged and light. Strangers, even- The fact that people care but strangers don't give a damn kinda works, sometimes. Y'know? Anyway, helps get really clear on where I'm at, and what I can do about it.
Helps to get a friend to call a week later, to make sure it gets done; or even to come over and help fix whatever thing.
Flushing and support have been good to me : )
... Then celebrating lol