Coach, I am a Texas Family lawyer,and I will tell you straight out that I get custody for dads all the time. So either you got the wrong Judge or the wrong lawyer or both.
But that was a beautiful post, and your older son is so luck to have that relationship again, about which I am sure he has been dreaming. This time you became a dad at the right ti/ time of your life .Enjoy it all, This is the best job you will ever have.
Double congratulations on being a dad! All of your sons are lucky to have a dad like you who is speaking into the their lives. Your 13 y/o son is lucky that you didn't wait even longer to step in (or back in) to his life and begin teaching him what it means to be a man - a man of responsibility, a man of honor, a man calling forth his son(s) into their rightful roles in society.
Thank you for sharing this with us and wish you all the best as you continue to build your relationships with each of your boys.