30 Days to a Better Man-Day 9: Ask a Woman on a Date

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Permalink Reply by Cameron Atkinson on June 9, 2009 at 8:53am

Unfortunately I am going to have to skip (lets call it delay instead) today's goal. In my life at the moment there is no one that I would be interested in dating, which is slightly sad, but lets say I will try to achieve this one by the end of the 30 days if i can regardless.

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Permalink Reply by Luke on June 9, 2009 at 9:43am

Let's see what the community can do to encourage everyone's participation in this.

For the single guys, while I'm sure we all have great ideas for the dates themselves, let's elicit the community's advice on breaking the ice / cold-calls. Just do it? Say 'hello' enough times and go from there?

For the not-single guys, how can the community encourage you to take on this goal? To busy to get away from the kids? Kids are at school, just go to her place for lunch?

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Permalink Reply by James Milholen on June 9, 2009 at 9:47am

Right so, I'mma gonna take a rain check on this till Sunday. My girlfriend lives in DC. I won't live there till Sunday, when I move up there. She's gonna swing down Saturday to attend my brother and sisters graduation party with me, then Sunday we're driving up to DC with some of my stuff. I'll be staying at her apartment till sometime in October when we;'ll both go get a new lease together somewhere...larger....so I can have my other possessions up here.

In anycase, I say Sunday for a date and not Saturday because I don't feel the graduation party counts as a date, but I plan to make a detour to Colonial Williamsburg on Sunday, and take her around that. She's never been. That counts as a date, since I planned it out weeks ago, and it will be just us. Paid for will probably be split between the both of us tho. ^^;;;;

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Permalink Reply by Øystein on June 9, 2009 at 11:45am

Yeah, I'm going to have to postpone this as well. My girlfriend lives a million miles away, and I don't think she would be very happy if I went out with someone else.

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Permalink Reply by Chris Partida on June 9, 2009 at 1:12pm

I've been in a relationship, on & off, for the better part of 3 years. I like the idea of keeping things fresh like when we started out, though I know it could never be exactly the same, we are far more comfortable with each other now, than when we first dated.

I planned a date last weekend, but only after she told me to have something ready for a Saturday night. This time I'm gonna surprise her, and we're gonna have a blast.

Last weekend's date consisted of a dinner at El Caserio (right off the Silver Lake Blvd. exit off the 101 North, great menu of Latin/Ecuadorian/Italian flavors). Then a trip up Mulholland Dr. to a viewing spot of Hollywood, the Hollywood Bowl, LA and beyond. After that we settled down into a showing of "Drag Me To Hell" (she loves horror films, I love her) at the Arclight (highly recommended theater in LA, they have very clean theaters and are usually strict about film, audio and audience quality [though we did have some annoying talkers this time]).

Can't wait to top that, I'm thinking of preparing some good eats in advance, showing up and sweeping her off of her feet.

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Permalink Reply by Will on June 9, 2009 at 1:52pm

We'll go dancing, either this Friday or next, at a nearby dance studio. The big job will be to get a sitter.

Anybody want to talk about the nuts and bolts of getting dating going, how about dropping by the Romancers group?

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Permalink Reply by mkokc on June 9, 2009 at 2:44pm

This helps with the provision part of my life, because I already got it done. Next week, I get to go to NYC for a conference. I've gotten my lady a plane ticket, a nice hotel, tickets to a broadway show and an aftershow dinner reservation.
Sweet!

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Permalink Reply by Dad of Divas on June 9, 2009 at 3:06pm

This one will not be the easiest for us, as alone time as a parent with young children is not always the easiest. Lucky for us, we have my parents coming to town this week and they have generously offered to watch the kids so that we can do just this! It has been a while since we have been on an official date so this will be a nice change of pace.

Have any of you noticed how much going on dates changes when you get married and have kids. Not that I want it to, but what you talk about, as well as the time you actually take when you are out changes. I hope to be able to change this, as I think that once you start going down this path it is a slippery slope.

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Permalink Reply by Henrique Vilhena on June 9, 2009 at 4:02pm

This is going to be difficult for me. I'm studying physics and there aren't that many girls in my department. I'll have to take my morning coffee in the biology bar. I'm also in my final exams so 24 hours is to short a timetable for me. But I will do it before the month is over.

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Permalink Reply by Adam Snider on June 9, 2009 at 4:17pm

Done. I've asked the girlfriend on a date. Now, I've just got to come up with something a bit more original that the dinner and a movie thing that we've fallen into. Any advice to shake things up a bit?

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Permalink Reply by Nick Taylor on June 9, 2009 at 4:32pm

Regrettably we both have exams at the moment, so the next possible time we can feasibly go out is a week on Saturday. But I'm going to invite her round to my house, cook her a meal (I'm thinking grilled tuna steaks, new potatoes and a salad?) and then suggest we revise for our final maths exam together or just relax with a film. Original date ideas will hopefully come when we have more free time.

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Permalink Reply by Tommy C on June 9, 2009 at 4:52pm

I'm in a bit of a rough spot with this one. I'm going out of town this weekend and work ten hours a day the rest of this week (not counting the hour drive on each side), so there is no realistic way I can pull this off before next week. Add to that I don't actually know any interesting girls around here (just moved), and I've got a bit of an issue. Any suggestions on even finding a decent girl out in the real world? I've generally just dated girls I've met at school thus far.

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