Today's task has us finding a mentor.
http://artofmanliness.com/2009/06/02/30-days-to-a-better-man-day-3-...

You might not be able to find one in just a day, but we can at least get started.

Here's your 30 Days to a Better Man-Day 3 task in a nutshell:

* Pick an area in your where you think a mentor can help you and draw up a list of three potential mentors.

* Describe why you think they'd be good.

* By the end of the 24 hours, contact this mentor. Send an email or letter, call them, or drop by their office. You don't actually have to visit with them during this day, but make contact with them in some form.

* Report your results in the 30 Days to a Better Man Community. If you have any advice on finding a mentor please share those, too.

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Found a mentor

I have to admit this was kinda hard! I quickly realized i have already had quite a few mentors in my life in different areas. All the people that i know that i belive would be great mentors are already my mentors, officialy or not. So i had to think of something other than my intrests and work. Somewhere in between my thoughs i stubled upon a post on a forum, from a guy i always though was posting really nice stuff about politics and not only. I decided to send him an e-mail telling him how much i like his posts and admire his way of speaking his mind and ofcourse his way of thinking, i got a reply back and the deal was closed!

This was a bit hard. But still, found two mentors: my good friend who is a bit older than me, yet full of knowledge. The other one is my wing tsun kung fu Sifu (teacher).

My experience is a bit strange.  I already had a mentor, but I did not exactly realize it until now.  My Shotokan Instructor and I have developed more than a simple instructor student relationship.  This is mostly due to his attitude.

I respect the man for many reasons.  He has a very strong and resolute mind (one of my core values), he has accomplished many goals I wish to attain (Blackbelt, Family, solid relationship with the Lord), he is also a very honest and hardworking man.

I also seek to learn from his previous experiences (street fights, struggles academically, etc) so that I can make corrections that I may avoid.

So I am undertaking the third task today and it's definitely difficult. 

I am focusing on a mentor for issues related to general professional and emotional fulfillment. 

These the traits he should have:

  • Rationality
  • Self-made
  • Emotionally accomplished -happy
  • Survivor
  • Dealt successfully with the same challenging personality traits that I have

Still struggling to come up with someone. But it will happen sooner or later.

Oh, This is most difficult (and desirable) part.

But I came up with something.

I always wanted to practice Aikido so today I just did it.

I googled best teachers nearby and called to him. I start practice from September.

I think Aikido teacher can be a mentor, I can ask things from him.

He is a strong man with a kind voice, I want to learn from him.

I asked my friend who has a lot of experience to follow me, to treat some aspects of my character:

- Develop confidence,
-esteem
-be more aware of my ability

I am going to choose my father. He was always a stable rock in my life and still continues to be. He has excellent knowledge in spiritual things as well as financial.

Growing up with a single mother and two sisters and very little male presence has made this one hard for me. Any advice on how to go about it?

Day 3: Find a Mentor

I'm currently still a student and soon to be joining the professional world in a year or so. I arranged to have weekly lunches with my manager at the internship I will be returning to this summer. 

I've been entertaining the idea of this for a while. It's nice to have challenges like these with accountability that serves to push me to action.

Ive been pursuing a career in voice overs and a friend of mine gave me a name of a guy whose been at it for a few years, had a great conversation and Ill ask him to be my mentor in this process. Its a good start.

Day 3: Find a Mentor

When I read this challenge, instantly 2 names came to my mind: Charles K. and Alex H.   Charles has been my Dad’s best friend for well over 25 years.  He has had a huge impact on my life, and even took to me a father-son event at my school while my Dad was serving in the first Gulf War.  If I had to name a mentor for my life to this point, there is no doubt, it’s been my “Uncle” Charles.   However, I recognize that a big part of this challenge is not to discover who in your life has been a mentor, but is to gain a new mentor.  For this, I turned straight to Alex.  I’ve known Alex for about a year now.  He’s about 15 years older than I am and I met him, at of all things, playing bar trivia.  Alex and I now play on a regular trivia team together, and he’s one of the most genuine people I have ever met.  From early on I recognized that he was someone I could talk to about anything and he would not judge nor break my confidence.  For this reason, I have asked Alex to have lunch with me.  Because I feel comfortable to do so, I will explain in full detail what it is that I am doing, explain to him the importance of the Mentor relationship, and directly ask him to be my mentor.  I will let you know how it goes.

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