I am a 26 year old man and I've been with my 32 year old girlfriend for 3 great years. She is incredibly beautiful, loving, sexual, my family loves her, and we are in the same place in life (we agree on when to start a family, etc). I've recently been thinking about proposing but I'm beginning to hesitate because of our 6 year age gap. I can't help but think that I'm doing something out of the norm...

Is a 6 year gap not a big deal? I think I'm just getting cold feet and getting anxious over something incredibly negligible...

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Awesome!  Congratulations!

I thought about it too, in my case, but people that I trusted said it was a non-issue, just like we did here.  Age difference can be an issue, so I don't think it's silly to consider it.  And having considered it, decide it's a non-issue and move on.

Have a beautiful wedding and a great life together!

My wife is 8 years older and we have been married since 1987, and I got married when I was 19. I was in the Army so we left our home town and all the family for four years and had to survive. The family had a great problem with that at the time (some still do). Before that I was dating a lady 16 years older than me so I thought I had made dramatic progress. I found the positives far outweighed any negatives. Good luck!

My wife is 9 years older than me.  We married when she was 36 and I was 27.  We both had been through failed relationships, and I think this actually made us more perceptive in picking out the "right one" the second time around.  Rather than simply lusting after each other, we started out as best friends before we decided to get in a relationship and get married.  This year we will have been happily married for 30 years.

I am 30 and my wife is 35. Honestly, with all the reasons you just gave (beautiful, loving, same place in life), would you really choose to throw those things away because of a small age difference? If so, I would tend to think you should also reevaluate if she is truly the one for you. With that said though, if all of those things are true, don't let the age bother you. I was a little unsure at the time as well, but as others have mentioned, as you get older the age gap seems to not stand out so much. Of course, my wife is Asian, and she doesn't appear to age a bit...so maybe I'm biased :-) 

I married the first time at 27 to a woman who was six years older and it was a disaster. Would like to say the age difference had nothing to do with it, but it did; she was a little further along in her career, past taking risks like I still wanted to take with my career - we didn't talk enough beforehand.

That said, it worked fine for my best friend. In fact, our wives were in the same high school class. She was studying law, he was getting an MBA, they were in absolute agreement about future plans, money, career, kids, etc.

How in sync are you and this lady? If you're in perfect sync, then six years ain't nothin'.

Don't mind age difference. Age is just a number. There are a lot of couples I know like you and they live happily. It's all about maturity. If you really believe you are both ready for it. 

My wife is 8 years younger than I am and today is our 33 Anniversary.  She keeps me young, just sayin...


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