A perfect relationship. A perfect job. Perfect feelings. A perfect friend. Perfect results. A perfect day. What could seem more like the perfect friend than perfection?
We take the desire for it perfectly for granted!
Yet, somehow, perfection often eludes us. I just don’t feel right. My partner turns out to be different from what I thought. I hate my job. Love has let me down. I could feel better. Anyway, I can’t really figure out what I want…or should want.
It seems there are so many ways to express the lack of perfection that actually is in our lives. So why is its absence such a mystery?
What in fact makes perfection such an enemy?
Each man of us is encouraged to examine the unique ways that “I personally” crave for perfection. Each man of us is encouraged to name the personal ways in which perfection is my enemy.
Please add your wisdom to our community.
Thanks for introducing time into the discussion. I find time to be a very powerful component of my perfectionist overlord. All the contributions together are starting to form a wonderful understanding of the question and how we, as men, approach it.
For all the young'ns, here is a brief summation from the literature on the subject of perfection:
"... Dad's advice about perfection built my work ethic, and led to my unhappiness. Here's what I'll tell my kids instead..."
Hey guys! Great article on this question at Salon
The full statement I have heard time and again is "perfection is the enemy of good enough." In a fast paced working environment requiring speedy task completions, for example, attempting to attain perfection in whatever the endeavors might be can mean a slowing down of production and failing to meet deadlines, both impacting on profits. Of course, if the clients expect perfection and that is what has been advertised, then the client must expect a time-consuming process. In business, time is money; hence perfection being seen in many cases as an enemy of the "good enough" that will bring in speedy profit.