I am always the good guy, I try to be nice to everyone genuinely just in general to everyone (not just in attempts at getting laid). I'll admit that I am not the best looking guy right now at 19, and I've never even had a real relationship but I'm working on it. But literally every time I have attempted talking to a girl over the past year I have just got screwed over in the end and it sucks. I just don't understand what I am doing wrong, it seems as if they just want my attention when nobody else will give it to them.
I'm going to go ahead and give you the simple answer. You're 19 and probably looking at girls were in the same age. Also, youre also probably looking for a relationship based on more than dinner and sex...
Todays society is one where the girls in that range are the grand daughters of the "empowered women" generation... They are neither looking for that relationship, nor could they probably handle it if they found it. Relax a bit, enjoy casual, and sooner or later (probably later) serious will fall on you before you realize it happened. Or look at older women.... their experience makes them more fun anyway.
If they like you at the start, that is an enormous plus! It means you have charm and can attract women.
If they stop liking you, it must be they're not getting what attracted them earlier. One possibility is that you do something off-putting. But it could also be that the lady wants a romantic relationship, and you provide her with friendship (a.k.a. "hanging out"). Dates are nicer, I think.
...and they'll still drop you. That's the dating game. If you don't like it, you'll have to not date. That doesn't mean giving up. Some people don't date, they court, that is, they don't go for dating till they're looking for marriage. It keeps you from having so many breakups. But if you do want to date, better get used to heart pains, so to speak.
Age old question that is asked.
How many girls have you asked out / gone out with in the last month?
We have discussed this many times on the forum. The short form is that you need to boost your attempt rate. This gives you two key things, it reduces the power of each failed attempt and increases the odds of finding a good match.
It sounds as though you're not as bad looking as you portray yourself. You talk about how you're not good looking in your post. STOP IT. I have seen more beautiful women with ugly (or not so good looking men) than you would believe. The way you're talking here in your post is that you self-deprecate and if that is the way and what you talk about when you talk about yourself to women than that is most likely the issue. CONFIDENCE, CONFIDENCE, CONFIDENCE. Talk about things, talk about others (not in a bad way), tell jokes, discuss what you're doing or going to do, talk about cars, talk about them; NEVER, NEVER, NEVER talk about how ugly, poor, stupid, bad off, you are. NEVER, NEVER, NEVER talk about yourself in a negative way; at the most talk about yourself in a neutral way. BUT don't brag or just talk about yourself and how great you are, that's just phoney.
The second issue may be that you're not taking it to the next level. If you text, text something somewhat sexual (double entendre if you will) but not gross. If you meet lean in for a kiss at an appropriate time, touch her knee, brush up against her (not grinding just a brush), brush her hair back from her face. Get a bit physical (but not too far). Read her reaction, if she draws back then stop, if she leans in then go for it. If she touches you, brushes up against you or even brushes her hair from her face or plays with her hair then she's interested.
You are getting some excellent advice and I really don't have much to add to it, except this: You're only 19. Damn man, you're still a teenager! Both you and the girls you're interact ing with are immature and inexperienced. I know at that age it feels like you should have it all, but it's not true. Slow down, enjoy the process, and accept as inevidible that you're going to screw up and that you have much to learn. Part of being a man is picking yourself up, dusting yourself off, learning from your mistake, and going at it again. The world of dating and relationships is not for sissies, especially when you're young.
You should definitely let your anger incubate into full-blown misogyny. Because if the girls aren't interested in you, it must be their fault! Not yours...
"Why are girls so terrible?" They aren't that bad in my experience. And I've had more than my fair share of rejections and didn't get my first kiss until I was 18. Bit slow off the block. Look if they are hot for you in the beginning and then they disappear it is because they aren't interested in you anymore and they don't want to face the confrontation of telling you. It may be rude or cowardly but it is hardly terrible.
Pick up some books on relationships. The library will be full of them. Without trying to come across harshly you are trying to name all girls as terrible and blame them for a recurring result when it is probably down to you. Work on yourself so that you can attract the kind of woman you want.
I've been in this situation before, and here's what I've learned from it: You need Confidence. Don't talk over the internet or text to try and get to know someone. One time I did this and they said they were a Necromancer in the bloodline of the Norwegian Monarch who has a carrying permit from when their stepfather molested them. And that's the most absurd one. There's others that are just plain stupid. With face to face, you get a better picture of what effect you're having on them, as well as if they're bsing you if you know what to look for.
The trouble with dating (and really, all human relationships) is that it's extremely messy business. Men and women are very complex creatures with each person a little - or wildly - different. In my experience, people who claim to be dating experts or gurus (and who may well be very skilled in that area) will look at the same situation and come up with very different, and often contradictory, perspectives. As such, I take every piece of dating advice with a grain of salt.
You refer to yourself as a nice guy. It's an oft-said maxim that "nice guys finish last." But ask ten guys why, and you'll not only get ten different reasons - you'll get ten different definitions of what a nice guy is! Some of those descriptions, like a spineless doormat, or a secretly manipulative type who tries to convince people to like them, are definitely examples of negative definitions. They could come off as desperate, which turns off women. Other descriptions, like the kind, considerate fellow, or even a gentleman, are viewed as boring by girls who are shallow and/or immature. Nothing wrong with the guy here, just pursuing the wrong girls.
As others have stated, your looks play a smaller role than you would expect. There's not much that we can do about our appearance beyond working out and maintaining a healthy diet.
As far as what is going on with the girls who talk to you for a while and then stop, that again could have different reasons. You could be slow to close the deal, which may be something you need to work on, or she was playing you, which is not your fault; you just need to learn to recognize when that's happening and find a more mature woman that's worth your time. Every scenario can cut multiple directions.
Others have already pointed out that you're still young, but I know that feeling that you're missing out on the fun that everyone else is having. I turn 31 next month, and I only have one blind date and a couple false starts on my record. But I haven't given up yet.
Probably the most annoying platitude you'll hear from anyone and everyone is that it'll happen when you least expect it. In my church, the Christian version is that God will bring her to you when you stop looking. Understand that those dear friends and relatives who say these things mean well, so try to be patient with them - and forget the platitude altogether, especially since you are of the male half of the species. The cultural expectation is still out there for the man to initiate the relationship with a woman, so as soon as you make that move, you begin looking and expecting to meet a great gal. Fortunately, the outcome of asking a girl out has a 50-50 chance of working in your favor, unlike the outcome of trying not to think about The Game.
Dang it! I lost The Game! But I digress.
The best you can possibly do is work toward improving yourself first, figure out what you want, and keep trying. Learn some new skills. Work toward your education and career goals. If you find a girl who falls madly in love with you along the way, great. If not, it's her loss.