You ever get to the point where you're just tired of trying? Where you feel like you've been putting out way more than you're getting back? I'm at that point right now - both at work and at home. I know the answer most of you are considering - just suck it up and deal with it - because that's the answer I keep giving myself. I have no intentions of bailing on any of my responsibilities.
But the issue remains, I'm pretty well tapped out, not much left to give.
How do you guys go about powering through low spots like this?
1 Kings 19.
In a nut shell the message being provided is when, day after day you have been giving your all trying to do the right thing and help the situation but it is just too much to deal with and not getting better. Start by making sure you are getting proper nourishment, eating and drinking right. Get plenty of rest and some sleep with a little alone time so you can think. I like to spend my alone time at the gym or outside getting a little exercise to take my mind off things and work out the issue (‘s). Also if you can get with a buddy to share the problem with that seems to help.
Sometimes at your lowest points you need to stop looking down and start looking up for your answers.
A good friend and I were having a similar discussion the other day...
Picture for a moment that your career is a pendulum--it just hangs there and does nothing unless you push on it. You, being a self realized man, are pushing on the pendulum every day, pushing it in a successful direction. The harder you push and the more that pendulum gets away from straight down (the beta position), the more energy it takes just to keep it in that same position and the harder it is to move it further.
Now consider that you are pushing not just one pendulum, but several (work, family, social, exercise, etc. ) every day. You just can't do it, no one can. So what you need is a plan. A plan to focus on one or two pendulums at a time, and let the others bide their time a bit. You have to conserve your strength, use it wisely. Tapering off on one to focus on another is not giving up, it is looking at the long term and realizing that you have a long road ahead of you.
I read a book several years ago called the Power of Full Engagement. Actually, my wife bought it for me back in the day, and insisted that I read it, but that is another story. The author discusses energy/rest cycles and how to manage your time and energy to keep performing at a top level. You may find it helpful.
Damn, that was pretty thought-provoking. I like that a lot!
At home you need to have a sit down with your mate and discuss it.
At work, change up the routine if you can. One thing that helps me is to go to lunch and read a book out side away from work.
It helps me a lot to exercise, even if it's just a walk, but weightlifting and running seem to be the best. Have you tried talking with your so about it?
I don't know about you, but getting tired of trying is like getting tired of life, and life is a very precious thing to me. Getting tired of trying is like giving up hope, its like giving up entirely. Learn from your mistakes, use them to you advantage, don't just give up like that. The american revolution, did they they just "get tired of trying" no, they pushed on until they had what they wanted. Will you just give up like this? Or will you fight for it, no matter how much you get "tired" because i certainly won't quit no matter how tired I get. There is still time for you to get up and continue this long and dusty road. A road always leads somewhere, you may not know where, you may not know how long this road is, but a road always leads somewhere.
If it's that you're working 18 hour days, time off would be good.
If it's that you're up all night with a toddler, maybe you and the missus could trade off.
If nothing objective is happening but you feel that way anyway, I'd guess you're either sick or depressed.
Hi Chris. I know the feeling well. When I feel like that there are few things I like to do. I read some letters my Dad wrote me before he had alzheimers. I pull out some special items that mean a lot to me. I write down my thoughts and concerns in a journal. I text my brother something funny and wait for him to respond. I remember that one of the best ways to feel better about things is to help someone else, so I look for some small service I can do. I also take minute to really think about the blessings I have. One time I went on a walk and just spent the whole time thinking of everything I was grateful for. Most of all I pray. I truly believe that God is there and that He does support me through it all. I hope some of these helped.
http://artofmanliness.com/2012/04/10/beware-the-tit-for-tat-trap/ <--- Scroll down to "Nice Guys are Score Keepers".
You could be over-extending yourself because you're too nice.
Heh - yeah, that's me.
There's a likely root issue then. You're feeling powerless because you're not really acting on the responsibility you have to direct your life. I'm sure you feel somewhat impotent at home and at work, which would make anyone feel depressed and anxious. Plus you're probably on a pill that's notorious for destroying libido and drive, which only serves to make the problem worse.
Is the AD med you're on an SSRI? Common SSRIs:
Prozac Celexa Luvox Zoloft Paxil Lexapro Viibryd (an SSRI and 5HT1A receptor partial agonist)
If the above rings true, read Dr. Glover's book (free sample on amazon.com), talk to your Doc about maybe switching to Wellbutrin (a non-SSRI AD med) and be prepared to do the hard mental and emotional work that is required to overcome your self-destructive appeasing tendencies. Personally, I found that my nice guy tendencies were preventing my wife from experiencing true intimacy with me, because I would never be fully honest with her about who I was (desires, dreams, etc) because at the first sign of disapproval from her I'd keep those things to myself.
Let me know if I'm barking up the wrong tree.