Hi men and women from AoM,

The thing is that I've struck a date with this great girl yesterday evening. It was heavenly to hear how excited she was when I asked for a date, but besides the good signs I was wondering how I could make from this date a great date. It occurred to me that I kept most dates quite simple. No little present or surprise nor anything else I could remember special.

So I was wondering last night what I should bring on a first date or what should I do as a special surprise? Buy a rose, a bouquet, some chocolates or just keep it simple? Furthermore is there something I can do else perhaps? I've already done the basics and I know common courtesy and such.(something rare for guys of my age here in Belgium it seems since most girls are surprised when you try to be a gentleman)

Anyway it would be great if you guys and girls could give some advice about what would be the best way to make this date great!

Thanks in advance,

Rémy

Tags: advice, and, courtesy, date, first, love, presents, tips, tricks

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K.I.S.S.

 

If anything, find a way to get her a flower on the date, rather than show up with one. Say you end up at a carnival, winning her a prize is far more special than just showing up with one. The prize or the flower will bring back the memories in a much stronger way.

I'd say play the gentleman (open doors, take her coat, be complimentary), but at least in the US, a gift on the first date is too strong a signal.

Probably goes for Belgium too. Belgium is not the same as Holland, but a bit similar, and getting a gift or token for a first date is considered very weird. 

Dress well, be clean, be fun: Bring yourself. 

Okay, thanks for the advice guys. I think I'll leave the idea of giving a present. (We're going to a pub in the city so) Perhaps I'll find something else at the moment. ;)

How did the date go?

Mentioned before but chivalry is not dead....open her door, ladies first, help her with her coat, etc.   Just as important as the first date is the after the first date moment.   I'd follow up the next day just to let her know you had a good time and would like to see her again.  Even sending this through a text message would be fine.

No, no texting unless she initiates.  Men speak to their women, they don't hide behind technology.

Well to be honest most folks of my age would find it very awkward if I just called to say thank you. Perhaps it's more of a thing in Belgium. I've got some American friends and I must say there are some distinct social differences.

But then again I could be wrong... I just like to say at the end of the date it was fun. Seems the most logical, no?

It's just my age showing Remy.  If the social convention is to text then do so.  I like the personal touch of talking myself but I'm a bit older.  I like to hear the emotion instead of relying on emoticons.

I don't blame you. I still called her personally to ask for the date so on that part I'm still doing like adviced by most of the community here. ;)

Yea, I'm looking forward to have a date again after a good half year of being single. Ofcourse I'll try to be a gentleman and for the guys who asked how it went or when it is, it'll be tomorrow. I'll keep you guys updated. ;)

Yourself.  Well dressed, dressed appropriately, well mannered, attentive.  Go too strong on the first date and you may well scare her off of any future re-enactments of dates.  If you bring flowers bring some spring flowers, not roses.  Roses, I think, would put too much pressure on her as they are considered the be the romance flowers; and a first date isn't there yet.

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