What is expected of a man on a first date?

- on the actual day

- romantically

- should he follow up

- should he plan

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You make plans; it's annoying for her if you say, "I dunno.  What do you want to do?"  You do the work.

There's an issue of how much you want to say, which on the first date is not too much.  It can be as little as a visit to a tea shop.  Too much is too much pressure.  (Say, no gifts of jewelry!)

OTOH it can be fun to have a change of venue.  Afterwards, you can (say) get a pocketful of bread and feed the ducks by the lake.  Or go browse a specialty shop.  

Follow-up depends on if you want another date.  Calling the next day? day after? help me out, guys -- "I like you."  Calling that day unless she left her coat in your car -- "I need you and I'm going to be annoying."  Calling  days later -- "Don't count on me."

What else, gentlemen?

Yeah the when to call again can be a challenge. I think it more goes by how the date went.

And how she was responding to you.

Very into you, I'd call two days later, not the next day.

But that's just my opinion, you won't seem needy. 

Well first off, being a gentleman comes first.

Open doors, pull out her chair if you're dining, things like that.

-On the actual day

Be on time, clean shaven, dressed clean and proper for the location of the date. If you're going to a park/beach area, proper length shorts and a nice shirt. Not a graphic T, but a Henley or polo.

If the beach is involved.....not a Speedo 


It's the first date!! I wouldn't go for much and just "feel out" the situation. Possibly a hug or kiss. But this is at her discretion.

-Should he follow up

Yes. No matter how the date goes, be a gentleman. Either a follow up saying thank you for a nice time and move on, or setting up another date.

-Should he plan

Yes. At least plan where the date will be at. Not to say it won't change, we have to be ready to adjust on the fly. But with a good plan, it isn't a "huh, what do you want to do?" That doesn't impress women

Hop  that helps a bit


Just act like a good person, still pay for dinner on a first date, and have fun.


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