I hope this does not come off sounding like a complaint.  What I am looking for is some perspective and advice regarding a few of the groups on the site from those of you who have been here for a while.  I am a member of a few cooking-related groups such as BBQ Pit Masters, Men in the Kitchen, The Manly Art of Baking, and Manly Meals.  It appears that with the exception of a post or comment or two that I have made since I joined a couple months ago, these groups have been almost entirely dorment for some time.  I think at least one of them has seen no activity at all in several years.  My question is:  What happened?  Did the leaders or active membership leave the site, or just lose interest altogether?  And, is there anything I can do to stoke the flames a bit other than just posting a comment or topic now and then?  Or, is the interest in cooking just not to be found on this site?  Is cooking, other than on the grill, still seen as a woman's domain?  Because in my limited experience in the industry, male chefs are definitely the norm, and, I happen to think that on the whole, men make better-tasting food.  I have noticed that most women I know have little if any interest in cooking any more.  Again, I'm just looking for some perspective here, and advice if you have any to offer.  I wouldn't say my life is consumed with food and cooking, but I enjoy it a great deal and would like to find a community of men somewhere that enjoy it as well.  What few decent food-related sites I have found seam to be dominated by women, not withstanding my earlier remarks about women abandonning the kitchen.

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That thought has already occurred to me, and I have tried a comment or new thread here and there with no success.  I think it takes more than just one person making a post to bring a group back to life, but I'm not sure what else to do, if in fact anything can be done.

Most gps are dormant. That's a problem w the whole group concept on Ning.

You try to keep them going but mainly end up talking to your self

There are plenty of guys here who cook. Yes, some of the groups are basically dead. You could always post on the main forum under General Discussion and you might get more response that way. I think there are also too many groups. You mentioned several above that could all be combined into a cooking group. Too many groups sort of fractures the responses since not everyone interested in cooking is in all of those groups.

This is a good idea. Why not start one group related to cooking, baking, and barbecuing and invite all the members of the different food-related groups to join. Traffic in groups isn't high but maybe this would get more participation.

Isn't that group called "Men in the Kitchen"?

I understand. My son likes mac and cheese, too. Last Friday, I made this Mac & Cheese Lasagna for the first time. It was pretty good. Good enough that he asked me to make it again so I might do just that tonight. You should try it, Rick.


I substituted the mozarella cheese for Kraft Colby and Monterey Jack Cheddar, but only because I already had it in the refrigerator. (I like Mozarella better though.) And I used Ragu for the spaghetti sauce. It's basically a hassle-free lasagna.

I know what you're saying.  What I see in a number of groups is simply this:

1.  The original "sparkplug" of the group loses interest.

2.  Guys who join the group post their one or two cjent comments, and then literally don't have anything new to say.

3.  Guys who are new to the groups or AoM often don't look around or read past posts to groups, so some guys get a bit fatigued at seeing the same question that's been already addressed several times, i.e., "What's a good basic cookbook?", "What do I 'really' need for  kitchen?" and just stop answering.

4.  I've noticed that a couple of already named popular groups tend to become a semi-private message board for a few members who just like to argue with each other.

Apologies to all for allowing this discussion to languish for the last several weeks.  I have been kind of busy dealing with the news that my first kid appears to be on his way and all that comes with that.  But, if I may return to the original question and the relevant posts in response; I like the idea of creating a new group that encumpasses all food and cooking issues that guys here on the site might be interested in.  Several have mentioned some of the more common reoccurring problems that occur with the more active groups, but short of actually taking control of a group, I can't see any way to eliminate these problems.  I don't have the answer, but so far, the only idea I have is to start my own group that encumpusses all the various food interests that guys here may be interested in.  I agree that it would seam reasonable that the "Men in the Kitchen" group should be that already, but it's not.  If I could have my wish with regard to this dilema, I'd have all the other food-related groups removed from the site and consolidated into the group I could create and run the same way I do with a small group I have been running on Yahoogroups for the past 7 years.  Of course, I can't remove these inactive groups from the site, and I'm not sure the people who created them are even around any more.  I just don't want my group (should I create one) to become yet another dead weight here on the site.  I'd rather remove it myself than let that happen.  If I had some reason to believe there might be the interest in this topic, I'd create it tomorrow.  I'm not sure what I'm asking here - I'm just voicing my thoughts in case any of you have any helpful feedback or ideas.

We got Manly, and made the women cook. 



Earlier comments pretty much summed up what happens to groups.

Thing is with cooking, you've got such a wide range of cooking and cuisine that once guys have commented on their specialties, they often don't have much to say.  The Sandwiches thread on the main blog turned out to be interesting, despite my initial doubts.


1. Most guys who really cook tend more towards the basics, and really don't get too elaborate with their recipes. 

2. I don't see too many "foodies" posting stuff up. 



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