Ok i hope i'm formulating his right.
I wondered how good chatting is, like not chatting with people from the internet, but chatting with people you know in real life. Is it a manly thing to chat with girls? I have the feeling it is not. But i wonder why that is?
Or do you see this different? I just would like to hear your opinions!
And very important: If you have no other chance to chat with a girl, for example on a long distance relationship (which of course is an exception) how do you chat manly? Because i haven't seen this asked somewhere.
Yeah thats what i mean, but not only for talking but also getting to know a person better.
Let me get this straight:
You guys are having a conversation about whether or not it's manly to have spoken interactions with girls?
No chatting interactions with girls are not nearly the same as real life conversations. I just wondered why.
Not following you, Luca. Are you asking about the difference between on-line chatting versus talking to someone in person?
Online chatting isn't as good as in person with anyone, girl or guy. You don't get to hear tone of voice, facial expressions, etc. But if you can't talk in person, talk in some other way---but talk! This goes double for talking to girls, by the way. Never mind whether it's manly or not.
Yeah i don't even really know what i tried to say anymore. It just made me wondering that chatting with girls, in most cases turns out akward or slow, but talking to them in real life is totally different. So i started to dislike chatting with girls, and wondered if i just do it wrong.
How do you mean?
I'm a little lost as well.
As for chatting via web - with girls or guys - with new people, it's an easy way to communicate, but try to get to know the person face-to-face. I've met many online friends in person, the experience in most of cases was very good. I even have some good friends from distant countries whom I am anxious to meet again as soon as possible.
Chatting via web with girls that you know from school, work, church wherever, can be a little misleading. Lately, I prefer to invite the girl to meet personally, because some of them can exchange thousands of written words with you, but it doesn't mean that they really want to be close friends, girlfriends or are really good in real talk.
Yeah you are speaking out of my heart! Except with the girls chatting, i have almost never experienced a long conversation via chat in that case. I have the feeling that it got uncool to chat long, because everybody (except friends) allways seem to be busy and are only chatting with half of their attention.
Thats why i asked here, because i wondered if it is like this for everyone else. I think i said it wrong tho.
Nowadays I don't use keep chatting for a long time at once, but you can have a long exchange of messages regularly with a certain person. My advice is to invite the person to meet and have a conversation face to face when you notice she can be a nice one.
"Is it a manly thing to chat with girls?"
I wish I was Jon right now so I can actually come up with the appropriate response.
Care to explain?