Ok i hope i'm formulating his right.
I wondered how good chatting is, like not chatting with people from the internet, but chatting with people you know in real life. Is it a manly thing to chat with girls? I have the feeling it is not. But i wonder why that is?
Or do you see this different? I just would like to hear your opinions!
And very important: If you have no other chance to chat with a girl, for example on a long distance relationship (which of course is an exception) how do you chat manly? Because i haven't seen this asked somewhere.
It depends on how you talk and act. I think it's probably manly to be yourself and comfortable with that. Talk to whoever you want. I chat to loads of girls as friends but I treat them as though they are one of the lads (men/ boys) but then i chat to loads of lads as well.
I would disagree with one point. It is manly to chat with girls, but treat them like girls. Its perfectly acceptable to carry on intelligent conversation with girls, but I never talk to them like one of the guys. But then again, I was raised not to even cuss around a girl...
Yeah i'm agreeing with you, if i talk to a girl like i do to a guy, it never works.
"But then again, I was raised not to even cuss around a girl..."
Glad that people like you still exist.
I behave different as well. But in general, I'm at least slightly formal to everyone at least close friends.
I was raised not to even cuss. :P
I am basically the same here, but with one exception.... as a rugby player, I will talk to the female ruggers the same way as I do men. I learned very quickly that they will talk to you the same way, and expect it in return, and are not offended by any "enhanced vocabulary"
Yeah, these are the girls that are in the friendzone anyway and they know it. I guess I don't talk to them as if they were guys but I treat them equally and I don't joke with them in the same way either haha.
Thats intresting to know. For me this almost never works, but in real life its totally different. Maybe its jsut that some people can chat well and some don't?
I would rather speak in person myself.
I wish there would be only this...
Then there would be two possibilities:
1. "ASSIMILATE" -The Borg
2. "EXTERMINATE" -The Daleks
What do you mean by "chatting"? I've never been big on talking just for the sake of talking. If that's what you mean by "chatting", I'd vote "no". But, honestly, I just suck at small talk. I'm not much of a people person, anyway.
Say something when you have something to say. Don't say something just to fill the silence.