okay so there is this girl i like and i flirt with a lot (we are both 17). from what my friends have told me she is flirting back but she likes to play her cards close to her chest and i have got no idea how to proceed and actually make a go of things. we live in ireland if that makes any difference.
Ask for a date as simple as that. If she says yes, bingo! If it's a no, well sadly it seems she was flirting for fun then. Also keep it a bit light-hearted. You don't want to be too serious at that age. Take it from me, I'm 19 years old myself and I've seen what can happen if you don't adjust a relationship to your age.
Yeah I didn't to mention that in my post. Just to reinforce what remy said, you (we) are way too young to get too wrapped up in ladies. I'd try keep it as strictly fun as possible, as hard as that can be sometimes. Take it from someone who's currently fighting off the urge to get fully stupid over a girl right now.
Here is the big secret, dude.
Prepare yourself, this is highly privileged information, only the most manly of Men can even handle knowing it, let alone truly process it.
You go up to her, and ask her out on a date.
Dude, he hasn't even learned the secret handshake yet and you are giving away the best secrets?
If she plays her cards close to her chest, you just gotta get the clasp off and you're set!
If you want to get things rolling, you gotta ask her out. Plain and simple. I ask a lot of chicks to go out. Some say yes, some say no. Get over the fear of rejection, the most common issue for guys, and you'll feel a helluva lot more confident.