Just some insights anyone willing to share points of views.

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Lack of trust.

Not having a bond, if a marriage is held together by "things" that aren't each other. If a marriage is held together just for example the childrens sake, the mortgage, appearances etc. A marriage should be held together by each other, if everything was removed the couple should want to stay together.

Just my 2 cents.

A marriage isn't an entity that exists on its own.   It is entirely a product of the participants.  It is toxic if you're toxic; it won't be if you're not.  As for what constitutes a toxic spouse ... did you have anything more specific?

There are very few occasions where marital problems are one-sided.  If a marriage isn't working, there's probably something each spouse can do to push in the right direction.

JB

I disagree, with a few exceptions.  One spouse can very often change the entire tone of the marriage ... generally, by visibly and intentionally putting their spouse before themselves, by giving the wife/husband what she/he needs even if you're not getting it back.  By sacrificing rather than struggling.  It ain't easy in a toxic environment ... but, it can right the ship.

 

Like I said, there are exceptions.  But, most people who think they're an exception, haven't tried it ... and probably aren't.

 

JB

Thank you for your input and sincerity.

I'll back that up, having experienced some very difficult times in my marriage.  Thanks to some dedicated communication from both of us, it's better now than it's been in years.

Hey Rick
Just because there are problems doesn't mean you haven't hit the nail on the head with your post. It's so easy to have problems in a marriage, but so tough to find solutions that give enough satisfaction to two people to be workable. Speaking from my own experience. Obviously this is why it is so critical to choose a good spouse, but given enough time and a few poor decisions, even the best marriage can turn into the proverbial hot mess.

A toxic marriage is one that harms, rather than aids, the well-being of the spouses and/or their children.

I very much agree with this definition.  Dysfunctional is not the same a toxic.  There are some situations that you can "live with", but a toxic situation is one that is actively destroying the participant.

Lol..

Obviously, selfishness. Marriage is about leaving the "I" behind and just having a "we". When people approach marriage like a selfish contract, like I give X and get Y in return, it's all fucked up.  Only those people who should marry who are eager to leave their ego behind and melt into a higher unit called a family.

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