There is a lot of history between this girl and myself. I'll save everyone, including my typing fingers, the trouble and say we are giving it an honest try now. We agreed to take it slow and have gone on two dates so far.
The question now is: what do I do for V-Day? Do I even acknowledge it? Simple flowers to her house? Make the third date a V-Day date?
Put aside that I've known her for a few years. What you would do with a girl you just met?
Opinions and advice are welcome and appreciated.
Thanks in advance.
I don't know the history, so I'll just speak as though you'd never dated before, as you suggest.
3rd date is too soon for something major. But I think you should go out for Valentine's, because not to at this point suggests you're really not interested. A _small_ present wouldn't be amiss -- no jewelry yet.
Write a note on some nice stationery and send it to her snail-mail style. Get her a book that has been inspirational to you. Or, give her your copy. That's sentimental.
I think you should take her out. If you guys enjoy libations, then a lounge is often a good place. Dress up nice but not over the top formal, think open collar and sport coat type of thing.
If you live in Atlanta, Rooftop 866 is kind of what i'm getting at, its nice without being awkward. For dinner, go somewhere that you would be uncomfortable going in without a collar, but no violin quartet, silver platter, "very good sir" types of places.
This is the point where you need to show your continued interest and that you can be fun as a potential boyfriend, but like Will said, stay away from doing anything like giving jewelry.
Most importantly, be yourself and the rest will follow. Have fun.
I acknowledged it to my wife when where dating that I would not be doing anything for it. I handled her expectations by letting her know that I loved her but would not get into the trap of the day, spending for too much and her being expected to reciprocate. This only works if you give your love flowers and cards etc unexpectedly throughout the year.
Make her dinner
Would asking her for her opinion be bad?
We agreed to go slow. And we need to mainly because I need to be sure of HER feelings. She's the one "trying out" more so than I. I am setting the pace and doing something for Valentine's Day would speed it up past where I think we should be.
It is never a bad idea to ask her opinion. If she grows in your heart to be your life partner you need to be able to speak with your partner and trust her opinions.
Okay. I talked to her about it. Half-tricked her into agreeing that the "pace" we are in is doing well and then said V-Day may interrupt the pace. She agreed. I will make the third date nicer than it would have been to compensate.
Slow game, nothing wrong with that.
It's funny, no matter what suggestions get thrown out, following your gut typically results in the best outcome. Smart.
Thanks for the help.
How does a single red rose on the third date sound? I think I should do something to compensate. The third date is the 23rd.
Pink or yellow rose, not red
Single red rose may say "I love you" too loudly, or may look like Valentine's leftovers.
Good suggestion. I think a pink rose would fit well. Thanks.