Posted before about my current relationship. Crazy for this young woman. Both fresh out college.This is both of our first relationship and first time being intimate, or at least to an extent. We have been together for exactly 3 months and no sex. Just lots of first base and some second. But she is scared of change and doesn't want to be hurt. So we are taking it exxxttttreemmmellly sssslllooowwww!!!!!! I really like her and have not minded waiting for her to get more comfortable. But my confidence as a 24 years old virgin man is being crushed everyday and only more recently as I interact with the world and my new grad program. Its not even pent up testosterone granted no one wants to get on my bad side right now. I live with integrity, eat right, excessive, study, and work hard so i feel like sex is my last thing i need to make me a somewhat complete man(assuming no man is actually complete).I feel like I need to finally have sex to feel more confident and that I might be wasting my time with this young woman. I tried talking about this but she is so dam emotionally closed off. Am I selfish to not want her to loose her virginity to someone else down the road? Should I wait a little longer, call it off, or call the red light district? I am being pushed to my freaking limits right now!!!! Screaming. Need some constructive suggestions.
Giving the facts isn't downplaying anything, at least not in any dictionary I've ever seen.
Comparing the risks to driving a car is downplaying them.
I am a 25 year old man living a chaste relationship with my girlfriend. I think it is good to try and be in her shoes and what her virginity means to her. If you look at it where your standing all you see is your not able to satisfy YOUR desires. I don't think you are wasting your time with this girl. What if you did have sex and it still doesn't work out, now her honor she had is gone and for a girl especially today it fees like there is no redemption so it starts a cycle.
No matter what anyone else says, and no offense to any gents here. Love is willing the good of the other. That what real love means. Not having sex and waiting helps you in committing to something even if you don't get what you want. That is a virtue in life that people lack today if they don't get anything instantly it is not worth persevering.
If you wait and focus on loving she who you are with, you will find that sex is put in it's proper place, and that in the long run it's a lot better because you know her inside and out and that knowing is not predicated on if you slept together. bed manners is a hogwash thing to judge someone on because it only takes into account how YOU felt about something, and especially if she is a virgin, both of you are gonna suck the first few times.
Also she might be holding back in talking about it because of how she feels other see her virginity. Virgins do not lack anything they only triumph in a higher ideal that few have. Sex is giving your entire self to the other person and that is not a small thing.
Virgins triumph in a higher ideal that few have?
And virgins who practice fasting and auto-flagellation triumph in an even higher ideal than that!!!
Anybody have a good set of plans for a bed of nails? My mattress is way too comfortable...
You ever notice that the ancients sacrificed the virgins. No one ever sacrificed the sluts, way, way too valuable
Jeff Dunham: [Walter is complaining about suicide bombers] You know, Walter, those guys actually believe that if they martyred themselves like that, there'll be 72 virgins waiting for 'em in paradise.
Walter: Well, April Fool, dumb-ass! If there are virgins waiting for you, there'll be 72 guys just like you! "Oh, no, this is not what Osama said it would be!" Seventy-two virgins? Why not 72 slutty broads who know what the hell they're doing?