My wife and I are expecting our first son in a couple of months, and I was wondering if anyone had any pertinent advice/experience regarding circumcising a newborn.

I grew up in the States and am circumcised, as it seems were most of my peers growing up. My wife is from South America, where we are currently living and where circumcision is not the norm.

Some of the factors weighing on my mind are:
-the lack of circumcising experience of the surgeon, being as it's not a standard procedure here;
-possible effects of our son being the only guy who's circumcised (in S.America) or the weird uncircumcised guy (if we're in the States);
-possible effects of him being different than me (if we choose not to circumcise);
-the cost (circumcision is not covered by our health insurance);
-possible health benefits of circumcision;
-possible psychological damage from circumcision (there are lots of fear-mongering anti-circumcision sites on the internet which purport this; I'm not sure how much credit they deserve).

I realize it's probably not that big of a deal either way, but if there are any fathers out there who would offer some sound advice, I'd be grateful to hear your opinion.




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Hi ben, i can give you a couple of reasons For getting your son circumsised. I am personally not circumsised and through my younger life i always thought it was strange that my
Member was not the same as my fathers, i used to ask them alot and worry about it alot. Then more towards my teen years when i had large groth spurts and hit puberty my little fella grew really quickly and i actually tore my foreskin on the inside due to
It being stretched to much when i got an erection. This at the time for me was a big deal it didnt heal for over 3 months+ and I was far to self concious to tell anyone or get It checked out. 

A few reasons to not get it are other than that i have had no problems, and i think im a rare case i have talked to friends and they have never had my problem i think its a size thing.

Due to my experience i will be opting in to getting my sons cut, just to save him my hassle 

Good luck!
Scott--I know this is an old post, but the tearing you had in your foreskin. Was it perhaps just the head/glans seperating from the inner foreskin? In many boys, they do not seperate until puberty, when the penis grows, or when the boy starts to experiment with retracting it. That is normal. It's too bad that you didn't have a more comfortable relationship with your parents where you could have told them abt it so you wouldn't have to worry and could have gotten cream or whatever treatment to help the pain.

Do you experience pleasure in your foreskin? Can you imagine your penis/masturbation/foreplay/sex without it? Why would you want to deprive your sons of that? Plus the foreskin protects the head and keeps it soft and sensitive. Mine is cut and as I got older, it has decreased in sensitivity and the skin is rougher on the head. Not good. Natural is best. Just let your sons know how to take care of their penises. Like you said, you have not experienced any problems since then. If it's not "broke," why "fix" it?

Will wrote a very good answer, it's elective surgery, and it's your son's penis. If he wants to cut the foreskin off when he's older, that's his choice.


Otherwise, as for the being the weird kid who is/isn't circumcised, this article mentions falling rates of circumcision, so it may be best to leave it on as he won't stand out in South America, and if this article is correct, he'll be fine in the US as well.



Also, on a more personal note, a good friend of mine had an adult circumcision at the age of 20 owing to a too-tight foreskin. He said that there was more pleasure with the foreskin still attached.

It's much easier on a boy to have the procedure done as an infant than later on...not to mention less risk of any health issues if not...


I have a cousin who never was...and it led him to needing 2 separate surgeries that were caused, according to the Dr's, almost exclusively from lack of being circumcised...


It's much cleaner, and easier to maintain cleanliness there also if it is done. Trust me, do not put it off 'til later...



Hard to keep clean?  It is really hard to pull back the foreskin to clean the areas?  The boy needed to masturbate more to stretch out the skin to make cleaning easier.  

Just like a large breasted woman, or a really fat person, who can get scabies, etc., from the excess sweat, dirt, etc., under the skin...sometimes if an uncircumsized person isn't careful, they can have problems as well...

I've never understood the concern about fitting in or not. Am I the only guy who was actively trying not to see penises growing up?

No, you are not. It is definitely a point of lesser concern.

My father was, I am not and we chose to not have my son circumcised.  On the father son thing growing up it was really was not anything I thought of.  I grew up in the USA where “everyone” was and it was not an issue ever.    I don’t buy the argument that you need to do this to fit in.  It will not cause social harm. 


Health wise if you properly wash yourself, you don’t get yeast infections.  As part of the "talk" you may need to include that masturbation helps keeps the skin stretched out better enjoy sex.  I don’t know of any real health benefits to circumcision that holds for first world countries.   

I could argue that it enhances making love because your nerves are shielded most of the time, but I can’t really say that with certainty because I have not been circumcised so I really don’t know.

If it is not for religious reasons I would not do it.  I have a hard time thinking god / nature did not intend for us to have a foreskin.   

Don't do it. I'm uncut and couldn't be happier. I've never had anyone bother me about it. I've never had any sexual problems because of it. It's mutilation and reduces the sensitivity of the area. We survived for millions of years with it. I think it's okay to leave it in place.

Think of it this way: it isn't your body, so it shouldn't be your choice. If he wants to do it when he grows up, by all means. But, I think that the number of grown men who are like me (i.e. all natural man), who would WANT to get cut is very small indeed.

We decided not. In the absence of compelling medical evidence for low risk populations with access to modern sanitation and western medicine - we decided there is no need for unnecessary medical procedures.


There is data to suggest moderate health benefits in certain high risk populations, and especially those without easy access to healthcare (e.g. as a preventive measure in sub saharan africa). But doctors and scientists are otherwise torn and do not have a conclusive stand one way or the other. 

Don't worry about "psychological damage" from the procedure ... just a bunch of whining nonsense from ideologues.  A two-day-old won't remember anything.  I'm fine.  My son's fine.  All is well.  There may be reasons not to, but that isn't one of them.


We elected the circumcision for my son, and will for my second son as well (in October).  Our reasons are mostly traditional and cultural, I suppose.  The "look like everybody else"/ "look like Dad & Big Brother" thing makes a little sense, I guess -- but, mostly, its just that most American Christians are circumcized, and we're both.  There may be benefits with regard to health and cleanliness -- having never been uncircumcized, I wouldn't know.


I won't pretend there aren't worries, though.  There is a risk, however slight, that something could go wrong.  I'll breathe easier after its over.  My wife gets diaper duty until its all healed-up, though ... it looks more painful than it is.



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