So I met a girl I am interested in at classes. We don't know each other too well, though we do occasionally talk about class-work both in person and online. And there was this enterprise workshop both of us took part in. 

Should I ask her out, and how should I go about it? This is probably my last opportunity as both of us are graduating soon. I'm not disturbing her until after her finals are over. 

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Yes

 

"I'm going to so and so, join me"

 

Worst that can happen is no date.  That'll happen anyway if you don't ask.  Go for it!

Yep. Best way of putting it. OP: go for it. 

Ask her to celebrate finishing finals...this seems to be teed up pretty easily for you.

Wow some great comments already on this!

I think Jason Detwiler has helped you line up a really great question that is going to work so well for your situation!

It can be as simple as "Hey, so I was thinking that when finals are over if you would like to go to ..." 

The worst that could happen is that she says no, but at least you did what you could and you should feel proud of that!!

Hope it works out for you mate!

Regards,

Richard from Romantic Missions

Alright so I asked her out for dinner online (I don't know her number). She said she wasn't free this week but might be next week, and asked me why. What should I say? I'm thinking of something along the lines of - "Catching up with each other after the finals"

No, no, no, no and no.

Put yourself out there, don't weasel out with "catching up with each other" alone.  Try something like "you're cute, you're nice, I'd like to catch up with you after finals."  That leaves no doubt what you're looking for (a date), and puts it on her to respond.  Maybe she'll say no, maybe she'll say yes, but you won't be left wondering.  I think you have at least some reason to hope since she offered a possible alternative to your original suggestion, as opposed to just brushing you off with "I'm busy, see you later."  But I don't know, and neither will you unless you stick yourself out there.

"Because I would enjoy spending an evening with you."

"Why?" is probably a bad sign, although it could mean she wants to know.  Or even that she's hoping it's not a just-friends thing.  Maybe.  But if you want a date, ask for a date.  If you want a friendly thing, ask for that.

Why?

Because I thought it would be polite if I bought you dinner first.

I bet you get the odd rejection. But when you don't, I bet its spectacular. 

I'm generally pretty good at judging personalities before I open my mouth.   Although, I've also made some amazingly rude statements with zero ill effects.  One girl summed it up with, "If anyone else other than you said the shit you do to me, I'd have kicked him in the balls."  I think, for the most part, chicks understand what they're getting into with me.

(reply acting up again).

I knew a guy like that in college. When I was 18, he was the senior in our residence (was about 21). We freshmen looked up to him like he was a god. Anyway, he could say anything to a girl and get a positive response. I remember one night in the campus pub he asked a girl from our residence if she liked it up the butt. We knew this girl. We thought she'd be the sort to not appreciate such a question. But with Pat she just smiled and said, "sometimes".

The man had a gift.

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