Greetings,

I had this job you see, welding as an apprentice in a boilermakers union in beautiful British Colombia, Canada, and I threw it away to go travelling, but how I was travelling was not what I thought it would be like, it wasn't exactly the path I wanted to venture for 20+ years (being a broke hobo, gave it a fair shot though), so I came back to BC and am trying to get back on my feet.

I want to go into business for myself opening Dive Shops at lesser known resorts to boost their business in order to start mine, and eventually open 10+ of these resorts and become a millionaire so I can help other people explore the oceans as well as to provide for my immediate and extended family either vacations or nice gifts. I also want to give my girlfriend and I a nice comfortable future with her backing support and love, to have a family and raise successful children. Reasonable aims for a man in these times we now live in I do think.

I am soon-to-be doing a scuba diver certification with a school bursary fund my parents set up when I was a baby. I am fortunate enough to have a father that is also a dad, but whom unfortunately is currently unavailable and may not understand my current situation anyway.

I am looking into doing a Scuba instructor course for 3 months in Feb. 2013 to become an extensively specialized dive master and to know the ins and outs of the scuba business by working at the local shop after the course.

*BC is, I believe, 2nd or so in the world for sealife diversity and the drysuit training is highly regarded worldwide considering the extensive training required. Also the shop is always hiring people THEY put through their pre-organized PADI school.

Afterwards I intend to do a few business classes, marketing classes and some online courses regarding online business, then start finding shareholders to open a business first probably in Mexico as I have connections in Salito, Mexico. Salito is a huge surfing community and I also love to surf - TOFINO, BC.. big wave cold water surf!!

Here I could maybe first open a surf shop and learn how to do profitable business abroad, then grow from there with(the idea is): diving/surfing shops with a cafe/lounge beside my girlfriends desired yoga on the beach sales booths, at tropical resorts (I LOVE BEACH TRAVEL!!).

I am still figuring out these future steps obviously and am patiently waiting to complete the business courses to set this in stone. I just figured entrepreneurship will earn me more than scuba instructing (basically no money, just covered living expenses) while I still get to travel, dive, hike, surf, beach sun tan, along with doing business  all I want! Obtained from Timothy Feriss' 4 hour work week kind of idea-1st world money earned to save/spend in 3rd world countries. Manage from a computer for freedom of travel!!

*I know spanish, french and would like to learn german in school; the main languages of diving tourists along with english.

My issue is I am living in a town with no industry that I am proficient in and find I am hard pressed to find a suitable and well-paying job I am qualified for (previously  was a certified welder before setting off travelling), and have been settling with drywalling for less than minimum wage, under the table as an apprentice just to save some money. I have also been looking into becoming a banking clerk or another white collar profession, because it pays very well here, until school starts and perhaps part-time during. Plus you get to look sharp wearing suits instead dirty coveralls!

*I may have too much pride to do grunt work as I have always noticed about myself in welding and previous employment, and thats something I have to deal with, but I need to earn $1600 a month or more to clear up my financial situation finally and to be where I want to be, comfortably, as a man.

I dont know what questions to ask, I feel like I am floundering in idleness at times and have been getting stress headaches and mental fatigue on top of physical fatigue from the drywall, which is not a very good job for me.

I am hoping there is a man that could be a possible internet mentor?? someone older, 35+ or whatever, to perhaps just communicate with me, a younger man - 19, who is just stepping off into this real world, a little late but with many experiences, passions and no regrets of where I have been and only a few regrets about what I have done. Minor things like smoking weed, but I did grow up in the marijuana capital of North America (not an excuse just a happenstance).

I am now enjoying the sober life with the odd beer in a social setting, and wine at family parties.

Anything that jumps to another fellow man's mind that can help me is appreciated. I read 2+ hours of The Art of Manliness a day but the only "mentor's" around me are women of family, as my Dad is busy and far away.  So I feel the need for manly figuring shit out time and a little guidance perhaps, an outsider's perspective maybe, so I don't feel so alone and small to the world. I am resilient but every man is capable of only so much and I am but a young buck, just now learning to fight for my DESIRES with my horns. 

I have nothing to hold back here for this is my life and I wish to accomplish my desires, I am satisfied with who I am and the progression I continue to develop with aid from this website and working out/swimming has been great. I now desire practical life counselling/ advice. Where and from whom better than someone in the community that I absolutely respect and cherish?

Cheers good sirs, thank you for reading this far, I pray you don't hold back, don't be easy on me, I would like to know what I need to hear.

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Can't help you much, but can give you two solid bits of advice.

1.  Lose the attitude about "grunt work".  You got to pay your dues in order to play, and grunt work is the dues.  It's also the foundation for being able to safely and efficiently do the higher-level work.

2.  Start making and maintaining contacts in the dive shop and SCUBA concessionaire worlds.  If you think you'll want to do this, you will need contacts, and an intro into the business.

 

Let me get this straight. 

 

You're 19 years old, and already a skilled welder.  You're capable of doing construction work, and are apprenticing as a drywaller.  Yet, you're refusing to work because you think you look prettier in suits than you do in coveralls?

 

OK, you've got some issues with priorities.

 

I'm going to say this as clearly as I can.  Your business will not be paying your bills on its first day.  You *need* income.  Or you *need* savings.  But, either way, you need some way to pay your bills, while building your business.  And, the easiest way to do that, is a job.

Steps to keep you on track.

  1. Find a local Junior College course in Entrepreneurship.  
  2. Build a real (50 page+) business plan. It will be real when you have the 100-1000 pages of research to back up the plan.  Make sure the plan has contingencies for both success and setback.  Set up a calendar of goal, targets & measures to reach the point of the start of the business plan. 
    1. Dive Cert
    2. Master Diver Cert
    3. Site Location
    4. Site purchase/rent
    5. Initiation of marketing program
    6. Initial Site development
    7. Break point for shut down of this venture
      1. Yes your venture may, and probably will fail. It is how you will learn what you need to know. You must know when to let go and regroup.
    8. Further Development Steps
    9. Second Site Development
    10. Etc.

The class gets you want you need to know to build a real business plan and opens up contact opportunities.

The business plan gets you access to small business loans and investors.

The calendar time line lets you keep your eye on the ball and realize emotionally that you are progressing toward your goal.

You can do this but you really have to be focused, educated and dedicated.  Drywall is a revenue source to your dream.  View it as that.  Do a good job, learn what you can and get a reputation for doing a damn good job.  This may open doors you were not expecting.  In business it is as much about your contacts as your ideas. 

Well said. +1

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