Yesterday my ex (half a year gone now) contacted me about some money things. Pure business, and quickly handled. We inquired if we were both okay, and that was it.
When we broke up (for the second time), we decided not to have contact anymore. Facebook got deleted, as well as common friends (mostly mine anyway). The reason for this total break was
a) She has some serious abandonment issues (part of the break up).
b) Last time we stayed in touch we got back together again (still a risk).
Tomorrow I woke up to a FB-message and a friend request from her. She said that she thought we weren't having contact because I'm afraid of hurting her and that I shouldn't worry. I'm more worried about reason b, especially as telling her that might give her hope.
The thing that got me most was that she wrote (with absolute conviction!) that she knew I had a new girlfriend and that she wished me all the luck. I don't have a new girlfriend, and I've never even had a romantic interest in the girl. Even weirder, the girl in question is in a (long) relationship with a good acquaintance of mine.
I have NO idea how she figured that I have a relationship with this girl. As far as I know, there aren't even pictures of the girl and myself in the same shot, and the only time I ever wrote on her facebook wall was when she won Silver on the Student World Championship.
Anyway, I'm completely flabbergasted.
My questions: How do I convey that it's still a bad idea to keep contact without giving her hope? What do you guys think about her completely inventing a relationship for me?
You're young. Take your time.
Make a fake facebook account using pics of a really hot guy and start courting her.
Or you court the fake guy. Let her think you switched teams.