Recently I have been thinking about fatherhood, in terms of when your children are, well, no longer children. What do you see as the father's role and responsibilities in helping his young adult progeny? How should a father shift from more hands on and rule setting parenting to his new role as more of an adviser or guide to early adulthood?

I think an interesting follow up to this discussing which should be a forum in its own right is, how and should the responsibilities and the treatment of young adult progeny differ between sons and daughters?

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I have always believed, and have said so here from time to time, that the most important, the only thing a parent can truly give a child, is a good example.  If you give your children a good example, you will have given them everything they need.  If you fail to give them a good example, though you give them everything else under the sun, you will have given them nothing.

 

This does not mean they will always do what you do, or even that they should or that you should try and force them into your footsteps.  The example you give should also include finding your own way, making your own mind, making mistakes and dealing with the consequences.

 

The giving of an example is not something that ever ends.  Whatever stage of life they are going through, you went through first.  Eventually, they will remember you going through the stage they are.  They may even forgive you, and perhaps, in their own way, begin to understand.   

I have 3 kids - 13, 10 , 7. As a father my role is to show respect and caring for their mother, as an example on how my son should treat his wife and hopefully what my girls should expect from a husband. I hope I am displaying a strong work ethic, doing your duty in all conditions and without exception, not complaining. I would like to believe they are starting to learn the importance of following God's will. The need for family, friends and serving in your community. Making sure we reduce our footprint by using it up and wearing it out and finally recycling when we are done with it. Live your life continuing to learn, by life lessons, self taught and a formal education. Showing respect to all living things, I hunt, fish, and enjoy the outdoors but I do not kill or do harm needlessly.

When I left my parents home at 17 I was allowed to make some bad decisions, had a few successes but I always had the ear and support of my parents, the things I mentioned above formed the framework of my life going forward, I was taught these things by my Dad and in turn hope I have passed these on to my kids. So I guess what I am saying is as they become young adults and start to leave the nest if the job was done right early on the next step is just building on the previous.

I have not reached the time when my kids are ready to leave but I can only pray that I am laying the foundation for their success. There will be failures and like my parents I will be there to advise, discuss and lend a hand when necessary.

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