Lately I've noticed a trend in society that makes it seem bad to be the alpha male. Why is this? I honestly don't understand how it is bad to have someone the group defers to as the 'leader' in this day and age. I understand the whole feel-good vibe on how everyone is special, and has valuable insight and yada yada. I understand it, but I don't buy into it.
Take my group for instance, in-which I am the alpha. If we are trying to decide what to do today, and everyone is arguing over what they want to do as individuals, it is usually I who steps in and makes the decision. I'd like to claim my decisions are based off equality and fairness ("you decided last week, it is Billy's turn this week" sort of thing) but it isn't. Generally, I pick based on what is going to cater to the largest number of us at the same time, while minimizing down-time such as traffic, and expenditure. In-short, it is based off of logic. Why drive to LA for lunch, when there is just as good of a steak-house in our town, and so-on.
Looking at it constructively, I can see why the mantle of alpha male is a dual-edged sword. Where-as I view it as, ultimately, a deciding role, many others (including self-proclaimed alphas) view it as who is the biggest cock on the walk. I do not believe leadership should be based on might, you're not a leader, you're a bully.
In the same breath, I don't believe leadership to be the sole grounds of the intellectuals with no physical presence to enforce their rule (so to speak). Rather, again in my view, it should be a middle ground. Going back to my group, in public if people try to start fights with us, I am always the first one to put his fists up. Not because I enjoy fighting (actually, I detest it) but because I view one of my duties as the alpha to be protection of my flock.
And that there is where I feel most of the modern day douche bags who call themselves alpha males err. You're not supposed to lead your group through intimidation, all that gets you is 'friends' who are too afraid to call you on your bullshit. Not to mention you're pretty much dooming yourself to short-lived friendships. No one wants to be pals with an aggressive asshole who likes to bully even those whom he calls friend.
I'd like to wax philosophical about how the destruction of gender roles in our society has lead to this new incarnation of alpha male, or how the decline of manliness has made the true alpha male sink into obscurity, but I won't. I think I've done enough sermonizing about my opinion on the matter and will turn to you Gentlemen at this point.
So, be you alpha, beta, or consider yourself too evolved for such an out-dated line of thought, where do you fellow men stand. Is the role of the alpha male just about preening and ego-stroking, or does it fill a need? And it this need necessarily a bad thing, or, like all tools, just a thing open for interpretation of its use based on the merit individual application?
Well, what say ye, men?