We've all seen and thrown our own, whether it's screaming at the top of your lungs, slamming the door, stomping your foot, or giving someone the cold shoulder. I hope we've all grown out of it by now though.

I know most men and fathers have a variety of different ways for dealing with children who throw temper tantrums. We can ground them, take away a prized object for a time, send them to time out, or even spank them. But what do you do if an equal - someone like a coworker, an adult sibling, or a spouse - always responds to confrontation by throwing a tantrum?

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I would probably laugh at them and say something like, "Get a grip."
I usually wait until they lose steam and then say "As I was saying...." or "Now that you are through with that cogent argument...." I try to remain rational and stick with the facts. Emotions are a poor basis for rational thought.
I don't have any children of my own, but my girlfriend said when her daughter used to throw one, she would make her go to her room until she settled her self down and was ready to talk (my girlfriend never argues with her ) about it like a sane person. My gf's daughter is a good kid because my gf has raised her to be like that - she (the daughter) knows what my gf expects and just does it. However, it took years of (for lack of a better word) 'conditioning.'
So I was sitting there, clueless on how to respond, when I suddenly had an executive run off on a massive tantrum, I couldn't help but smile as I walked away.

Guy calls me up, upset with me. He couldn't remember the name of the file he was working on, he couldn't remember exactly when he was working on it, he couldn't remember where he was saving it, he couldn't remember even if it was on the network or his computer. After proving it wasn't on his recent docs, his temps, anywhere remotely on his computer, he started cussing non stop. I told him that there was nothign more that I could do, and walked off. Probably could have done more, but why at that point. I had taken enough of the brunt of his incompetance.
These have all been great responses for the outbursts. What about the silent treatment and stonewalling?
I usually laugh at them and say "the important thing is you aren't angry"

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