Suggestions for dealing with a housemate who is waking me up early every day

Hi, I'm not sure I can do much else but would welcome any suggestions.

 

My situation is as follows: I'm from the UK and I've recently moved to a new city to start a new job. I decided to live in a shared house, as I'm new to the city and also thought it would be a good idea to save some money at what has been an expensive time.

 

My problem is that one of my housemates insists on getting up at 5am pretty much every day to go to the gym before work. I am a very light sleeper and wear ear plugs, take ZMA before bed and even use a white noise machine but I keep getting woken up each morning, an hour or more before I should get up. She may be quiet but something keeps waking me, I think it might be her door (the house has heavy fire doors). This has led to me being tired all the time, getting run-down, making mistakes at work and ironically, stops me from going to the gym.

 

I tried talking to this girl, very gently asking if she could be a little quieter in the morning. She responded (without apologising) and said that she can't and before I had said anything else said that she "wouldn't f***ing stop going to the gym" at that time - which is not something I'd asked. Basically, from the way she reacted, you'd think I'd accused her of stealing something. That was a couple of weeks ago but I keep on getting woken up.

 

I really don't think there's much else I can do. I've spoken to the landlord, who checked to see that the doors are functioning ok, which they supposedly are - so that really leaves asking her to be quiet, which I guess I'll do but I'm not looking forward to it, given how she over-reacted before.

 

Any suggestions would be appreciated, even if it's a good brand of earplugs or something to help me get to sleep!

 

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I don't think this is her problem. You said yourself that you use earplugs and sleeping pills. By rights, unless she's jumping on your bed as she heads out the door, this isn't her issue. My advice would be to either become a morning person or move.

'Sounds like a similar situation. In your scenario, you are the baby.'

Erm, thanks.

It seems like she is doing everything she can for you, don't bother her because you sleep like a field mouse.

The thing is, we have heavy fire doors and there's a way of closing them silently. She doesn't do that. She also chooses to get up at 4-5 am, when she only has to be in work for 9 and could go to the gym after work.

 

Personally, I would go to the gym after work, if I was waking someone up at that time. But I guess everyone's different

She can but living in a shared property generally entails being considerate to other people, which includes not waking them.

For example, I cook breakfast in the morning. If one of my housemates said that I woke them, I would apologise and try not to do it again. If it kept on happening, I would stop cooking breakfast- I don't think I'm being unreasonable, as I would do the same for someone else. 

Move.

I was thinking he should put that woman to bed properly ensuring that she is exhausted and has had a good workout. Then she will be too tired to get up early and not have a need to go to the gym.

the world's a twisted place; to each his own.

*mind blowing*

Put up a curtain just inside your doorway.  Use the tension bars.  This will add some sound buffering.  Also add some fabric to your walls to add the buffering.

You might also wake up at 4:30 one day to listen and see if you can find what is actually getting through your ear plugs etc...  It may not be her.  It may be something just before her that wakes you up so you think it is her.

Best of luck.

Thanks for the tips David.

Unfortunately, I'm not allowed under the terms of my tenancy to put things up but I'll try and see if there's anything else that might be waking me.

If I could find earplugs that really block out noise and stay in my ears, that would be a godsend!

I'd move out but I've just moved in there and can't afford to rent two rooms at the same time, unfortunately.

 

A tension rod expands to various sizes and leaves no marks. You can put up the shower rod or curtain rod and after you take it down no one could tell anything was there.

Ikea have belt/tie hook strips that clip to the top of the door. A rod could then hang of that .

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