"Me too Brian; all age starting bringing me was sag, and boy that does not look good on skinny."
Spoiled?
I have a vision of the man I want to be, and it doesn't include being spoiled...
I have two jobs. One of them is as an intern for Connecticut Light and Power, which, well, distributes all the electricity and power throughout the great state of Connecticut. And the other job is working on the ferries that go from Bridgeport to Port Jefferson, Long Island. I drive 30 min Mon-Fri to CL&P to work from 700 to 330, and Bridgeport, a 45 minute drive, is on the weekends from 0730 to 0330.
I'm not gonna lie, these jobs pay really, really well. I'm getting $14 an hour in both of them, and that is more than almost everyone I know in their 1 job. I work 7 days a week, and I wake up right around 5:30 every single day to go to work. I honestly don't mind waking up early at all; in fact, I greatly enjoy it. I'm the kind of guy that does stuff around the house, unlike the majority of my buddies who wake up at noon and play video games and such.
But I will admit, I am on my summer vacation. I got out of college for the summer a week and a half ago, and I had about 4 days to myself before I started the internship. For being a desk job, which I have always stated that I did NOT want to do, I am enjoying the internship. It's given me hope that I found a career that I will like...
I'm really starting to hate the job at the ferry, not for anything specific, it's just becoming more and more monotonous as time goes on. I brought it up to my parents the other day about how actually, it would be pretty nice to just have 1 day off for the week. Gimme Sunday off, and I'll be happy. I really wouldn't care about working the other 6 days. The problem is, no job these days is gonna take you working 1 day a week (Bridgeport). My mother told me that I should take advantage all that I have been given; a large house, a pool, my parents take care of all of my finances, etc. It's a great life. I would never tell you otherwise.
I told her that it's kind of stupid to work myself to the bone 7 days a week when I'm making almost 150% in both jobs of what everyone else in making in 1 job. If I'm already making that much more in 1 job, why do I have to work two? My girlfriend and I only see each other for a couple of hours, because I'm always going to bed early to wake up. I barely see my guy friends. And anything else i wanted to do this summer is virtually gone.
I'm rereading what I have written so far and I do sound incredibly spoiled. But it eats at me, and I have talked with and fought with my parents many, many times about getting them to back off and let me handle my own things. Especially my mother, however, seems to not let go.
I'm 20 years old, and yet I get treated like a prince. To some of you, I envision you scratching your heads and telling me to suck it up and deal with it because, frankly, I am acting spoiled and there is nothing wrong. But I absolutely hate being given stuff that I haven't worked for. I constantly feel the need to prove myself, not only to others, but also to myself. I want to make sure that I know I can handle things when they are presented to me.
After all of this reading, you're wondering where I'm going with this. Am I acting spoiled ( and should therefore just shut up and go to work) or do I have a legitimate point in not wanting to work and enjoy my summer?
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Permalink Reply by Logan on -
There ain't a damn thing wrong with having one day a week off! You've got a job, and it sounds like you work pretty hard, so to me it sounds like you've earned at least one day of personal time.
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Permalink Reply by Douglas Aldrich on -
That's all I was asking lol. Thanks!
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Permalink Reply by DoubleL on -
Dude, you also need to take the time to LIVE your life, not just WORK for life. There's nothing wrong with wanting time off to do what you want.
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Permalink Reply by Douglas Aldrich on
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Believe me, I had a list of things that I wanted to do this summer. Hopefully I can still get 'em done!
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Permalink Reply by The Dutch Dastard on -
You work to live, not live to work. Relaxation and time for yourself I think are basic needs. The thing is this summer: everything is a trade off. You have to consider what makes you happier: time off now, or less loans later?
I think that question is a simple one. Reasonable time off now. College is damn expensive, and you will probably have a lot of loans out by the end of it. Don't worry. Taking reasonable time off now won't increase your loans significantly, and with that important peace of paper you'll be able to pay them off quicker than you can now.
All work and no play make Douglas a dull boy. Have a good summer!
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Permalink Reply by Douglas Aldrich on
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I'm actually not doing that bad in terms of loans. I figured it out, and I should average out to around $20,000 in loans - not bad, when you consider my cousin took all of her college in loans and graduated $180,000 in debt. But I shall take your advice. Thank you!
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Permalink Reply by The Dutch Dastard on
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Wowza! I'm sure glad I live in the Netherlands.
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Permalink Reply by Douglas Aldrich on
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lol
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Permalink Reply by SteveSF on -
Douglas, you're working seven days a week to prove that you're not spoiled? Maybe you're fortunate and have good parents. But it sounds like you are punishing yourself by working jobs you don't like to prove you're not in a better situation than the next guy. We all have to work with the hand we've been dealt. Spoiled is when you don't appreciate the hand you've been dealt. It doesn't sound to me like you're spoiled. But you feel guilty that you've been more fortunate than the average guy. Say, thank you mom and dad, don't be a prick about it. But don't feel guilty about making the most of the opportunities you have.
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Permalink Reply by Douglas Aldrich on
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I know. I told myself that I will no longer be complaining openly about working 7 days a week, but if someone does bring up anything about me appearing lazy or what have you (which there have been times) I will be quick to point it out. I guess the only real reason I felt spoiled is because I was working two outstanding-paying jobs when a lot of people can't even find one decent one nowadays, and I didn't want to work.
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Permalink Reply by Rick Shelton on -
Ok, now I understand the dillema. You work the ferry 2 days a week and the internship 5 days. The internship will last 2 months but the ferry job will continue.
My advice, for what you paid for it. Suck it up. The internship, if it's in the field you want to go into, will give you valuable experience that you won't get anywhere else. The ferry job is your bread and butter so-to-speak. If you quit the ferry job you will be unemployed after the internship ends and will have to increase your student loans. Think about the future, getting out of college with no or low loans is a fantastic place to be. You won't have to worry about much of your first job's paycheck going to paying back your loans for years and years and years. Two months of hell is worth a lifetime free of student loan debt.
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Permalink Reply by Douglas Aldrich on
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Very true. That's what I told myself what I'm going to do.
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