Far fewer Americans smoke today, but there's a huge anti-smoking movement. Smokers face vitriol at a time where politically correct society is supposed to accept obese people as having a disability. Irony.
There are casual smokers - plenty of them.
Smoking, like all things, is a choice. Adults who decide to smoke should be allowed their vice, just as I am allowed my occasional beer.
If you would like a casual smoke, I would recommend taking up a pipe.
With a pipe, one does not inhale the smoke, and most "unflavored" tobaccos are free of the toxic additives that are so prevalent in modern cigarettes. It is also quite difficult to "chain smoke" a pipe. Therefore, you have a lower risk of most of the cancers associated with smoking.
You can experiment with different tobacco blends to find one that suits you in flavor and aroma. I prefer English-style tobaccos with a good proportion of Latakia, which smokes fairly cool, and leaves a significant "room note".
Pipe smoking allows you to acquire many tools, such as specialized pipe reamers, stands, tampers, and scrapers, which is certainly manly.
Indeed. I banish myself to my detached "club room" (such as it is), as to not annoy the ladies. However, it is a true gentleman's enclave. A cavendish/Latakia blend, a spritely cordial, and the strains of a baroque woodwind quintet in the background (quite lovely, even if a recording) along with some fine thoughtful reading- that makes for an enlightened, if solitary, evening.
That's how a lot of non-smoking women feel. I've smoked a pipe for a few years now, but never in public. I've never had trouble with non smokers. Its not addictive as cigs, and I wouldn't smoke prior to going out. Its just a nice relaxation tool while I'm at home.
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