Hi all So I have started seeing this lady recently. Things are going great. We talk a lot, and get along just fine. One thing bugs me though. If I were to tell her I pulled a muscle in the gym, or am not feeling well, I never asks me how I feel the next day. E.g, last nite I was coming down the stairs and missed a step. My ankle rolled inwards and I was in pain. Iced it and was feeling better. In the course of our texting I told her about it. Today, even though I was txting her, she didn't ask me about it. Is this something I should be annoyed with? I am feeling a little "uncared" for, if you know what I mean. If you think I am acting like a baby, just let me know!
We don't know what she's thinking. You might talk to her about it, finding a way to make it not about a demand or her doing something wrong.
My first thought was that she doesn't care about what you're feeling, but only how you make her feel, and that's pretty bad. But it's just a guess. That she doesn't want to intrude on your manly stiff upper lip is another guess. Only one way to know.
My first thought was that he wants his mommie to bring him chicken soup for his cough. A pulled muscle? A sprained ankle? Really? With injuries like those, I've forgotten I've injured myself within 10 minutes of the injury. I wouldn't expect someone to remember the next day when they know it's not life threatening and they can't even actually see me no matter how much they like me.
She might not be that into him. But, it sounds like he wants someone to dote on him. Which is pretty lame.
I'm with you on this one Shane, when I get hurt like that I generally forget about it rather quickly and will then try and stand on a weak ankle and fall flat on my face. Repeatably.
I'd only expect to be asked if I'm okay or how an injury is if it's put me out considerably (such as a broken bone, large burns or abrasions) otherwise, who cares? It's a mild injury, you'll be better in a day or so, completely over it in a week.
There's a part of every man that desires a little TLC every now and again. Too much need for sympathy in times of a common illness or injury might be an indication that a man is looking for a co-enabler. Too little sympathy for someone who may be in pain or anguish is an indication of that person's personality. I think you've made your (subtle) plea for some concern from this woman and would use this situation as a gauge of her motives or role in your relationship.
It sounds to me like you're whining. These are not major injuries. Walk it off. If she's unconcerned about a bullet wound or a cancer diagnosis, then she's cold-hearted and you likely have cause for concern. Not for this kind of stuff, though. You can't expect your girl to keep track of every pulled muscle or hangnail.
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