So I'm a college freshman, and there's this formal dance at the end of the week that a lot of people are going to. I've got my eye on a girl, but I don't know her too well and I've only talked to her a couple times. Should I ask her to the dance? 

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Yes. What's the downside?

You don't know her well so even if it went terribly (a 0.00001% chance) you wouldn't lose a friend.

If you don't ask you're not going with her.

If you ask and she says no then you lost nothing - you're in the same state as now.

Do it, an be a great gentlemanly escort for the evening.

If she says no, go anyway. It'll help motivate you for next time.

Very important question. If it is this week and in any way truly formal, you screwed up and lost out. She is a desperation date and you are giving her no time to get ready. Do you know she has shoes/dress/othercrap already cause you are giving her no time.

Should have asked her sooner.

If it is at the end of the week, I would cut your losses on the formal and just ask her out on a date.

I'd say no, because you have no personal connection to her and you won't build it at the dance -- the music'll be loud and you can't talk.  Better to have a food or drink date to begin with -- so you're dancing w/ someone you know, rather than w/ a stranger, because I don't think women are too interested in the latter generally.

There's also the "it's too late" thing.  Last-minute invitations are more likely to fail for scheduling reasons, and also suggest you didn't think enough of her to ask earlier.

This is not high school.  If you wanted to go to the formal dance you needed to give her a month's time to prepare.

Now go ask her on a date and date her like a Man not a highschooler.  

If she agrees to a date.

Dress like an adult on a date, sport coat, collared shirt, dark blue jeans and dress shoes.

When you pick her up you turn off your cell phone.

If you dinner and a movie: Go to the movie first then to dinner.  This gives you something to fall back on to talk about if things get stale.

Better to have a good time doing something together.  Go bowling, roller skating, etc.  Keep it in a public place so she will feel safe.

At the end of it I would walk my dates to their door.  

As you walk away turn your cell phone back on.

If the date was fun I would send a thank you note.

You lost the "formal" due to timing, now go out there and get a date!

If she says no, ask another.  Its not the end of the world, and now that highschool is over it is not going to be the end of the world.  

Only if you want her to go with you.

 

You might've waited too late, though.  Chicks have to plan ahead for formal stuff ... buy a dress, etc.  Maybe just a date, instead.

 

JB

Did you ask? How did things turn out?

Well I asked her if she was doing anything Saturday night and she said that she was planning on going to see a national ballroom dance competition for extra credit for her dance class. Seeing it would also be extra-credit for my dance class, so I asked her if she wanted to go with me. Not the best first-date plan, but we had a good amount of time to talk on the walk there and back, and it turned out good. 

Awesome news! Dancing is a great way to impress a girl, especially since many guys are averse to it or just can't do it. Secure that second date at a place where you can really talk if you want to get to know her more.

Well done. Great to hear a positive result. 

Yes

Is this a different girl from your other post?

Yes. I've known the other girl for years. I've just met this girl. 

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