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Should I ask her to the dance?
So I'm a college freshman, and there's this formal dance at the end of the week that a lot of people are going to. I've got my eye on a girl, but I don't know her too well and I've only talked to her a couple times. Should I ask her to the dance?
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Permalink Reply by Samuel Chapman on -
Yes. What's the downside?
You don't know her well so even if it went terribly (a 0.00001% chance) you wouldn't lose a friend.
If you don't ask you're not going with her.
If you ask and she says no then you lost nothing - you're in the same state as now.
Do it, an be a great gentlemanly escort for the evening.
If she says no, go anyway. It'll help motivate you for next time.
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Permalink Reply by terry sperling on -
Heck no!
She might turn you down.
Play it safe.
Stay home where its safe.
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Permalink Reply by JonEdanger on -
At the end of the week? Which week? This one?
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Permalink Reply by LShieldes on
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Very important question. If it is this week and in any way truly formal, you screwed up and lost out. She is a desperation date and you are giving her no time to get ready. Do you know she has shoes/dress/othercrap already cause you are giving her no time.
Should have asked her sooner.
If it is at the end of the week, I would cut your losses on the formal and just ask her out on a date.
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Permalink Reply by Will on -
I'd say no, because you have no personal connection to her and you won't build it at the dance -- the music'll be loud and you can't talk. Better to have a food or drink date to begin with -- so you're dancing w/ someone you know, rather than w/ a stranger, because I don't think women are too interested in the latter generally.
There's also the "it's too late" thing. Last-minute invitations are more likely to fail for scheduling reasons, and also suggest you didn't think enough of her to ask earlier.
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Permalink Reply by David F. on -
This is not high school. If you wanted to go to the formal dance you needed to give her a month's time to prepare.
Now go ask her on a date and date her like a Man not a highschooler.
If she agrees to a date.
Dress like an adult on a date, sport coat, collared shirt, dark blue jeans and dress shoes.
When you pick her up you turn off your cell phone.
If you dinner and a movie: Go to the movie first then to dinner. This gives you something to fall back on to talk about if things get stale.
Better to have a good time doing something together. Go bowling, roller skating, etc. Keep it in a public place so she will feel safe.
At the end of it I would walk my dates to their door.
As you walk away turn your cell phone back on.
If the date was fun I would send a thank you note.
You lost the "formal" due to timing, now go out there and get a date!
If she says no, ask another. Its not the end of the world, and now that highschool is over it is not going to be the end of the world.
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Permalink Reply by Jack Bauer on -
Only if you want her to go with you.
You might've waited too late, though. Chicks have to plan ahead for formal stuff ... buy a dress, etc. Maybe just a date, instead.
JB
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Permalink Reply by Samuel Chapman on
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Did you ask? How did things turn out?
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Permalink Reply by Hyrum Higgins on
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Well I asked her if she was doing anything Saturday night and she said that she was planning on going to see a national ballroom dance competition for extra credit for her dance class. Seeing it would also be extra-credit for my dance class, so I asked her if she wanted to go with me. Not the best first-date plan, but we had a good amount of time to talk on the walk there and back, and it turned out good.
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Permalink Reply by Michael L on -
Awesome news! Dancing is a great way to impress a girl, especially since many guys are averse to it or just can't do it. Secure that second date at a place where you can really talk if you want to get to know her more.
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Permalink Reply by Samuel Chapman on
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Well done. Great to hear a positive result.
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Permalink Reply by Michael D. Denny on -
Yes
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