Hello. I'm married, and I'm looking for good stocking stuffers for my wife.
She is a kind-of girly girl. She works part-time. Likes trinkets and candy.
We talked and we both like a stocking mixed with cheap things and nice things... and by nice I mean no more than $20 things. I know I'll be putting mints and such that she likes in there, but beyond that I'm a bit lost. We've been married 5 years but this is the first time we could really afford to spend money on each other.
How exciting, that after being married for 5 years now you two can really afford to spend money on each other this Christmas.
Does she love a particular animal (small stuffed animals often run somewhere from $6,$9,$16). Also, if she collects a certain type of trinket, you can sometimes find great deals at antique stores (if you have a lot of time on your hands to browse). Hand written card, small token of appreciation, or something sentimental could also work (like a picture of a place that something memorable took place, first date, first kiss, where you proposed, wedding, honeymoon, where you took her on her birthday or 5 year anniversary, etc.)
Or anything anyone else mentioned, like costume jewelry, lotions, bath beads and/stockings, because they're all great ideas as well.
So today I get an email from Ulta: "Great gift ideas under $20" It was all the bath salts and lotions and stuff. [bath salts as in epsom salts, which you can't eat, as opposed to the bath salts at Trader Joe's, which are actual salt] I receive far more of that stuff than I have time to use. I think it's a myth that women actually like it. It's just what you get when you don't know what else to get - like getting groomsmen a flask. But if it floats your wives' boat, great.
You're married, which means you're in this for the long haul. And, this is the *first* year you can afford to spend any money.
Then, why spend it?
Each of you could get the other *1* trinket as a gift...something to open on Christmas. And then take what you would have otherwise spent and open a joint savings account.
Girly-girls like stability and financial security, too.
A lot of people show and feel loved through gifts. Every individual and family will have different priorities of money and time. The $100 total this couple is spending won't get them a lot of financial security, but it might get them considerable emotional security, especially when this wife sees the effort the husband has put in.
No, but the gesture of opening that account, and the stability it represents is a wonderful gift, too. And, the start of that discipline is also good.
Different people react differently. He asked for suggestions...that's mine.
Fair question Chuck.
We have an established monthly savings track that we follow, and because we bought family gifts month ago on a killer sale, and because we only need to by each other gifts in December, we're actually able to put as much in savings this month as we do any other month.
So the security is there.
The ability to finally spend a little on each other is like closing the door on some hard years.
Trader Joe's near you? They have some cool things, food/candy yes, but really unique.