I'm in need of some advice. I'm at that point where it is about time my girlfriend and I started making out, but initiating it has always been my week point in past relationships. I'm 95% sure she is interested, but I just need some help getting things going.

I found this site that suggests running your finger along her arm or leg, or something along those lines then deliberately scooting closer and then going in for a kiss on the cheek and taking things from there. (Figured I would paraphrase a bit and save you gents the reading)

That is one way to go about it, anyone else have other suggestions or methods to offer?

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Just flirt, start with small kisses, then work your way up to making out. It's really not a big deal. If she wants to do it you'll know. If she doesn't you'll definitely know. 

What are your ages?  Seems odd you would have a girlfriend, but haven't been making out.

Mid-20s believe it or not. We started out long distance, which didn't help much. Now we are in the same city.

Sounds as though you haven't even kissed the gal yet. If that's the case, you should worry a little more about kissing her. Once you get a kiss in, it's a short hope-skip-and-a-jump to making out. Just kiss her, then kiss her again and see what happens. If she's interested she'll reciprocate, if not, she'll make it fairly obvious as to her displeasure.

Good luck mate!

We have kissed, and I have tried the multiple kisses in a row bit. I may just have bad timing, I'm not exactly the smoothest guy.

It is very simple, if you want to kiss her again, just kiss her.

How does she react when you try to continue kissing her?

It's mainly a matter of timing. I've tried the multiple kissing when saying goodbye for the night or whatever. Probably not the best time.

Not the greatest timing, sound like you've got the issue figured out though, good luck.

How 'bout, instead of waiting for the goodnight kiss, start off with a "hello there, beautiful" kiss, next time you meet up?

To paraphrase the old song, kiss her once, then kiss her twice, then kiss her once again.  Then proceed with your evening/day together.

Kissing doesn't need to be part of making out.  But if she's greeted with a couple of kisses accompanied by a hug (hey, but don't crush her, man), then some of the perceived pressure of and end-of-date makeout decision is alleviated.

She may be waiting for you to do it.

See the hill.  Take the hill.

Sounds to me like you should worry less about the "moves" and more about setting the scene, it would help both of you. At a good nite kiss you're standing in front of her house, you've had the kiss, you need to turn it into making out RIGHT NOW or it's going to be awkward. Standing there on her front steps, it doesn't matter where you run your fingers. It's too much pressure for any man. Instead set a better scene, like watching a movie on the couch. No one is watching, you have all the time in the world. You're relaxed, there's no pressure. Kiss her, work your magic. Flirt. Tease her. Tease yourself. Put yourself in a comfortable situation. It'll come naturally. I mean if she's agreed to let you call her her boyfriend I gotta think she's wanting you to kiss her. Go for it.

Agreed, you need the right setting. HGTV works well for my girlfriend and I when we make out. It's easy to tune out when you're getting into it and easy to tune back in should you be interrupted or need a breather.

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