Hey everyone  , 

My name is Kannav , I am 20 years old Guy, I am in college studying Business administration and at this point of life I feel really stuck and I have no idea how to express my problems so I am just going to put them in points :

1. No girl friend yet , Never had !

2. Addicted to porn and masturbation...(If addicted is the right word)

3. Way out of Self Discipline these days.

4. Just want to Kick back and watch movies and TV series all the time.

I have lot of time free after college as most of my friends live off campus and most of the time in evenings I am in my Solitude, no one to talk or meet though there are many people on campus but don't really know anyone , plus the fact that I am single is bothering me long time now , may be that's major reason of my Low self esteem.

I need serious advice...

Thanks 

  

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The major reason for your low self-esteem is that you're not doing anything esteem-worthy.  Self-esteem is a result, not a catalyst.  You haven't earned high self-esteem.

 

Your problem is inertia -- objects at rest tend to stay that way, and take a higher exertion of force to get moving.  You need to get moving.  You need a job ... even while you're in school.  You need less time to waste.  You need to force yourself out of the house.  Necessity is the mother of invention ... create necessity.


As for your lack of social interaction with anything but your right hand ... getting your ass out of the house will help with that, too.

 

Ideally, you'll come home so exhausted most days from a good day at school, a good day's work, and a good night with friends, that you'll not even give a damn about the TV.  But, even when you're stuck in the house, ration your entertainment time.  Limit yourself to an hour a day, or something, of screen-time.  Learn self-discipline by practice.  Find something productive to do with the rest of the time.  Work out.  Fix your car.  Learn to cook.  Anything.  Looking for a girl should burn up quite a bit of your time ... and, once you've found one, she'll burn up the rest.


You're going to have to force yourself to get out of the house, and to have the discipline to act like the man you'd rather be.

 

JB

You are about to start the fall semester. Go to campus and find any and every organization possible to join. Join clubs, societies, intramural sports. Go to the campus gym, you are paying for it, see how much a trainer will be(lots of time nothing extra at all).


Like Jack said, you have no esteem because you aren't doing anything worthy. You aren't addicted to porn, you just don't have anything better to do.

No , I am in India ... and my semester has already started , plus I don't have much or interesting Societies to join in college they all suck ...  They don't even have "Kick Boxing" in gym on campus, Which I always wanted to learn ... 

Yes I need to shake thing a Little .. 

Doesn't matter what country you are in, if you think the societies suck, you have already lost. It isn't that they don't have them, you think you are above them even though you are sitting at home and the people there are not.

hmmm ...

Actually the thing is don't understand how to approach girls ..

and Yes I agree with all of you , I need to find something to Do..Something to Exhaust me ! 

Thanks 

The answer is simple, take a risk and talk to them. Not just about you, but about life in general. Try and stop thinking something is wrong with you, it just gets in your way.

true, But I don't know how to initiate ... and Without wingman it become more scary !

Kannav,

If you have an iPhone, download my app, "Man Up".  It's filled with things to get you motivated.  Fitness, Booze, Jokes, and much more.  It has a bunch of things that may help you!! 

I don't have an iPhone yet ... is there any other platform that your app support ?

iPad, and iPod Touch! :)

Ohh .. no problem 

when I buy iphone , will surely take look at your app 

Thanks :)

Not sure what anyone else feels about this "Man Up" app; but uncool, this isn't a marketing venue.  The McKays sell advertisement on the site so talk to them about getting an ad otherwise leave it off.

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