I am the father of a newborn girl, my first child. She is awesome. My wife (her Mother) is also awesome. Right now she is in auto pilot mode of sleeping, eating and pooping and this part is very easy, we just have to make sure she is clean and does not die. All my experience with kids are with nephews so no girl experience. 

What advice can any fellow dads give on raising a daughter?


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That young, there's really not much difference between raising a boy or a girl.  In my experience, boys tend to be more rambunctious toddlers than girls.  They play differently.  But, the parenting is largely the same until they get to school age. That's when the differences start taking hold a bit more, and the parenting style is more differentiated.


'Til then, teach restraint and respect.  If you threaten punishment, follow through ... otherwise, they'll learn that your rules are more flexible than you say, and your word isn't worth much.  Also, don't over-threaten ... if you don't intend to do it, don't say it.  Love -- but don't coddle.  If you don't let them hurt themselves (obviously not catastrophically), they won't learn to brush themselves off.  Calmness works better for discipline than you'd think.


And, remember ... no kid ever died from an ice cream dinner every once in a while.  Don't get so caught up in raising a good adult that you forget to let her be a good kid.


If you have any specific questions, I might have more for you ... but, general questions get general answers.



Totally forgot about all that, folds and stuff.

I'll be teaching one to drive soon.

You need to be a better example to her of what a man should be, than you would for a son.


This man gets it.

Tricky part; it means you treat your wife, her mother, exactly as you would expect her future husband to treat her.

Also; YOU go have some fun with your wife. YOU get her out. YOU be her stress relief.

Healthy marriages mean healthy children.

I agree. I think that the most important thing to do overall is to love her Mom and treat her like a queen so my kid can see the example.

That seems to be a very prevalent response in this thread and I am defiantly taking note. 

Of course I will throw in some cold shouldered indifference every now and then too: Ignore her when she speaks, make her open the door for ME, slowly control every aspect of her life and make her give up contact with friends and family... 

That sort of thing.

Totally kidding. 


Thanks guys I dig these answers. One thing I'm curious about and this may be a silly question but how naturally drawn are little girls drawn to the whole princess thing? Or is this mainly driven by parents and society? 

By 'princess thing' ... do you mean the Disney movies, or do you mean drawn toward being a spoiled brat?  I'll assume the former.  But, if its the latter ... that's just lack of discipline.  I've seen it happen.


My daughter and nieces all went through a Disney phase.  For my daughter, it was mostly between ages 3 and 6 ... though some still lingers at 9.  She really liked the latest Disney movie a lot (the one about the ice queen that gets rescued by her sister, or something).  Unless you intentionally shelter her from it, I suspect you'll have to deal with it.  Then again ... my daughter also loved The Hunger Games and Harry Potter, so its a mix.


The princess phase isn't as bad as it sounds, though.  There are some good lessons in there for girls.  Its not as much about waiting around for a prince to rescue you as the feminists would have you believe.  And, its fairly wholesome entertainment for a child, which is welcomed.



the one about the ice queen that gets rescued by her sister, or something

Aw, JB, don't pretend like you don't know it's called Frozen!

Do you wanna build a snowman? It doesn't have to be a snowman...


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