Ok I feel a little silly asking this but the last time I was single, I was 18... I'm now 29 so I'm feeling like a total amateur in the male/female relationship department.
I've got this girl friend. We've known each other for a while but haven't really hung out in years. We've started talking a lot, she supported me through a breakup a couple weeks ago, and now we've arranged to hang out.
We talked about me cooking dinner for us, which I actually suggested really innocently and she seems cool with it...
Here's the thing. She has a boyfriend, of a couple years.
Now, from an outsiders point of view (or an insiders point of view to you guys who are in relationships) am I stepping out of line here? I REALLY don't want to screw with this girls relationship and I certainly don't want to cause this guy (who I don't know, I should add) any heartache.
So, should I take a step back a little and maybe rethink the dinner plans, or is it cool to proceed.
Was there something explicitly stated that he will not be there? Is there something implicit about him not being there?
He's not coming, he doesn't live particularly close. And I guess she just figured since we know each other pretty well, and her boyfriend and I have never met, she'd come alone.
It sounds so damn creepy when I'm typing it out even though I'm totally innocent in my intentions, but that's what worries me. If it sounds creepy, this other dude must be thinking the same.
Trust your gut
All I know is if that was my girlfriend I'd probably not be too happy about it.
If it sounds creepy, this other dude must be thinking the same.
I think you cooking for her is a mistake.
If you both don't do anything more then be friends what is the difference if it was a male friend you where sharing a meal with.
You are not out of line. Simply assume they have sufficient trust in each other and don't make a big deal of it.
Boyfriends kind of come and go nowadays.
A motorcycle doesn't have doors.
Sounds fine to me but then things might be a little bit more relaxed in Europe. If you're innocent you're innocent.
Yeah I'm in the UK too, seems like it might be best to just do the hanging out part.