Ok I feel a little silly asking this but the last time I was single, I was 18... I'm now 29 so I'm feeling like a total amateur in the male/female relationship department.
I've got this girl friend. We've known each other for a while but haven't really hung out in years. We've started talking a lot, she supported me through a breakup a couple weeks ago, and now we've arranged to hang out.
We talked about me cooking dinner for us, which I actually suggested really innocently and she seems cool with it...
Here's the thing. She has a boyfriend, of a couple years.
Now, from an outsiders point of view (or an insiders point of view to you guys who are in relationships) am I stepping out of line here? I REALLY don't want to screw with this girls relationship and I certainly don't want to cause this guy (who I don't know, I should add) any heartache.
So, should I take a step back a little and maybe rethink the dinner plans, or is it cool to proceed.
Me thinks Chu was referring to the boyfriend,
But don't worry about Jon. He's kind of like a Grandpa that's too old to bother being polite. He can give good advice but it comes with a lot of gas.
I like the Grandpa analogy. I do think of my Maternal GF a lot when I'm posting here. He was a man of few words and always gave it to you straight without a lot of fluff.
I'd disagree with the last part though. I pretty much distill most of the gas (read gas as "politeness") out and just give the main course (read that as "good advice").
One of my shortcomings is that I don't tolerate fools well. I'm working on it.
In this case gas was referring to more to the tendency to spout insults and profanity. . .
Ok. Fair enough. I have to be relatively polite and pc with the idiots I work for/with. There's only so much gas in the tank (for another gas analogy).
What insults and profanity? "Poop" is profanity? No-frills or blunt advice or comments are insults? Flowery (PC) talk between men shouldn't be necessary or, very often, required. Say it straight, unadulterated, and without rancor.
I have been known to be insulting and profane on occasion. Often it's related to some filter-reducing concoction. I don't have much of a filter to begin with.
Have you read some of Jon's posts?
Then again don't get me wrong I've no issues with Jon some times the "Straight Poop" just needs to be said, rancor included or not.
You really want to stick to small fish.
Just so I can kinda get a better handle on where this is going and how best to compose myself to suit, are there any hints to look out for that might suggest she's into me too?
Again, totally out of practice here so... girls 101 and all that.
How did you manage to find a gal who'd spend 9 yrs with you? How did you know she was into you?
Well, we met up one night, talked for five hours straight and noticed an instant connection.
Kinda like last night.
But she was single, so I guess I didn't worry either way.
Here is the difference....there is none. No woman, who is happily attached, goes to a single guy's house and talks for 5 hours. Even if you didn't screw, you had a deep emotional connection. Even if she is never going to screw you, nothing about this turns out well.
There are some 6 billion people on earth(I don't know the exact #) half are women. Find another.
If you need a friend, and can't find a guy to be friends with, get a cat or a dog.