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Permalink Reply by Christopher Weaver on June 11, 2012 at 7:25pm

I'm looking to dance as much as I "can", but I'm sure I'll loosen up after one or two dances and once I get to know her friends after the dinner. I'll be sure to think off all you guy's tips, they've helped a ton.

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Permalink Reply by Matthew Philippoteaux on June 12, 2012 at 4:35pm

One word: "Vodka".

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Permalink Reply by Christopher Weaver on June 12, 2012 at 10:38pm

Ha I wish.

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Permalink Reply by Chuck on June 12, 2012 at 9:02pm

So I know your prom is over now, and hopefully you were able to bring your A-game and at least get the kiss or the make-out (or maybe a little more!), but if you didn't, that's too bad man, do better next time.

As far as dancing advice, I was once like you - I didn't like grinding. But I'm also a pragmatist, and I was able to see very quickly that grinding has it's benefits. Namely, it allows you to physically escalate with your girl in a really short amount of time. Think about it, you're starting with your hands on her hips, then as you get used to the rhythm you can move in with your body, your chest closing in on her back, your hands exploring slowly her curves, you get the idea. As long as you do it with confidence smoothness like you know what you're doing you can get the kiss in ten minutes flat. Soon enough you two are making out on the dance floor. High-five, my friend.

Since your prom's all over though you might as well go get some dance lessons. If you and your date are a couple now why don't you invite her to take some ballroom dancing lessons with you? Your dancing conundrum will forever be solved.

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Permalink Reply by Christopher Weaver on June 12, 2012 at 10:45pm

It's actually not over and hasn't started heh. it starts in 19 hours and 15 mins (and counting). Then I have 3 days till the next one.

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Permalink Reply by The Dutch Dastard on June 13, 2012 at 1:25am

The thing with 'grinding' is indeed that you can 'cop a feel' and get to the kiss in ten minutes. Point is that it is a cheap, impersonal kiss. I've got the feeling that Weaver here actually really likes this girl, and seeing as she asked him too, that feeling is most likely mutual. In that case i can only say that it's worth it to wait for a nice, romantic moment. That doesn't mean you have to wait for the door, but it's not the kind of thing you want to do while grinding your bodies to the sound of a speech-impaired rapper shouting 'Yeah' and 'OWHKAY'. Especially since you have a second prom to think about. You have all the time in the world. 

Now, before you think i'm the sort of hopeless romantic that has seen to many chick-flicks and doesn't know what he's talking about: i've dallied with enough women to make a big lot of the AoM jealous, and completely appall the other. I've been around the block on that one. 

And still: taking ballroom lessons is fun, but it doesn't solve anything in the category 'normal modern dance'. It might make you more confident, but one doesn't simply perform a nice foxtrot while some silly girl with an electronic voice is implying that you should call her maybe. 

Have fun Chris! Are we going to see your prom-picture?

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Permalink Reply by Chuck on June 13, 2012 at 11:11am

Despite his mushy-gushy sounding advice, Dastard does have a point. If you dance like every other guy that loves to jam his crotch into a girl’s ass on the dance floor, yes, your kiss will seem cheap. So how do you take advantage of the quick physical escalation that grinding allows and still come off like Don Juan?

At some point tonight turn to your girl and say, "Let's go dance." When you get on the dance floor start off slow. Dance in your own space in front of her, only touching her right above the hip bone for a few seconds on and off. After a minute or two, move a little closer and place both your hands on her hips, letting her gyrate close to your crotch as you face her. Then step back and take your hands off her. Treat dancing like a dance of its own, where you go back and forth to build toward a climax. Make her wonder why you're not constantly on her. After a minute or so of dancing a couple feet away, gradually come back and bring her hips just a little closer than before. Then step back again.

Keep repeating this cycle until both of you are very close and your hands have explored her hips, sides, and lower back. The final non-kissing move is to get your head close to hers where your cheeks are barely touching, you can feel her body heat, and she’s not pulling back.

What I just gave you is the same dancing advice I got from a great  friend of mine before my senior Military Ball (basically a prom for us military school kids), but I was too much of a chump back then to use it. Since then I've used this method at a few proms, parties and other venues where it's dark and the music is thumping. It's a real game-changer, you'll see.

Also, Dastard says you have all the time in the world to get the kiss, and you do, but don't use that to psyche yourself out when you have the opportunity to go in. The sooner you kiss her, the better, so kiss her tonight. You may think you're moving too fast, but in reality you're probably moving too slow. She agreed to go to two proms with you way back in September, she's probably wondering what's taking you so long to make the move!

Go get her, Casanova.

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Permalink Reply by The Dutch Dastard on June 13, 2012 at 12:04pm

We would make an extraordinary team Charles! Bravo with little bells on top and all that.....now let's get some beers and see if that uniform can get you any! 

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Permalink Reply by Christopher Weaver on June 14, 2012 at 10:06pm

Responding to the last two posts-

Well no grinding happened between us (that's not a problem) but we danced. I should say I moved to beats that were possible to move to and did my best which was terrible, but she found it adorable (her choice of wording, I don't refer to myself as adorable), and fun, which I guess is a win.  I'll decide if I want to post a pic, I'm not very photogenic. All the attraction in the photo is her.

During a slow dance we got to that close point for about 5 second (what seemed like 5 seconds), but we did not kiss, it was very crowded and I was unsure how she may react. It may happen at mine I suppose, but we'll see. If it doesn't, it doesn't make the experience a bummer as I still got to have a ton of fun with her regardless.

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Permalink Reply by The Dutch Dastard on June 15, 2012 at 1:18am

Excellent......excellent.......

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Permalink Reply by Christopher Weaver on June 17, 2012 at 9:49pm

Well the second one is over now as of last night. I can say hers was better music and dancing wise. She was generally bored at mine. For dinner before hand and had a car service rented for us after my parents dropped us off at my relatives after dinner. Got to my prom later than expected (she was late getting ready and anyone who lives in NYC knows to never take canal street when coming from Brooklyn, yet my dad drives this way everytime and is surprised that it's filled with traffic, thus setting back dinner and time to get to my prom). More slow dancing at mine with her as that's all that was danceable and enjoyable in general. But more sitting as well as the music wasn't the best and my school has kids who can't have fun without being drunk or high, so a lot of people left early or stepped outside periodically getting there fix. As well as someone stealing my camera, ruining the rest of the night as I now have to hope someone returns it and hope I can get my memorable photos back of less than half of the night. Surprisingly the facility doesn't have cameras that record and play back...afterwards was bowling with just her. First game she beat me by two points (would have won if I didn't miss my last roll). I won the second game by 17 points. She went home early as she was tited so I killed time alone with the driver till 3, went to president grants tomb and back to my relatives to spend the night. All in all it was generally well besides my camera as she was happy in the end and I had good fun also.

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