Hello all. I need some advice. I have two proms coming up (wednesday of next week and the saturday of next week, her's is first, mine is second). I have my tux waiting and have my date as well (same lady for both proms), asked her in september as I didnt want to be in the position most of my other buddies are in (dateless), and I like her so I wanted to make sure I could get her before anyone else could (I pondered this for months and she was my top choice). My problem is, I do not dance or feel as if I can dance as I never have danced (I mean properly dancing, have grinded once at a school dance not to long ago, not by my own choice but that was still awkward for me). Grinding doesnt count as dancing to me. Even at family get togethers I dont dance as I'm too shy and feel awkward and nervous. My date on the other hand, I would imagine would probably want to dance a lot as shes very cheery, bright and filled with vibrancy. I want to actually dance with her and am going to try. I'm more comfortable with the idea of slow dancing and am pretty interested in it but dancing to something not slow and simple, on your own irks me. Can anyone share any advice or pointers for me please, as I want to make sure she has a great time at both. As well as myself but mainly her because if she doe's, then il be more than happy. Many thanks.
I'm hoping they place appropriate prom music (nyc youth doesn't have the best taste). But il be sure to practice some waltz steps I may encounter or any swing. The swing style looks like great fun.
There is no substitute for dance lessons. If you have no money, get a friend to give you some very basic steps. If you can afford lessons, do it -- it's fun, and women love it.
I may just have to practice with a friend if I get the time. I don't have time for dance lessons as it's 3 days away.
Three days is not much. Best advice is to relax and have fun. This girl has committed to two proms with you and has agreed ages ago (so its not like she's going with you out of desperation). Therefore it is safe to assume that she thinks she'll have fun with you. She probably also knows you well enough to know you are not a dancing expert. Just go for it and get out there and try to remain calm. If nothing else, look at what others are doing and try to follow their lead. Listen to the beat of the music. Dancing is more about rhythm than knowing any fancy footwork.
Also, for last minute tips or dancing practice. Ask your mom or dad. Believe it or not, they were once in your shoes.
That is true. I guess I shouldn't worry much.
Right. Dancing is a lot of fun, and dancing lessons are great. Point is, ballroom dancing is a sport and unfortunately usually doesn't come in at a modern prom, unless your lucky enough to have a partner that has had the same training.
Modern 'normal' dancing like we kids do these days follows no rules at all, unlike ballroom dancing. Usually you sort of dance on your own in each others vicinity, and that is all there is.
You just feel the music, and do what you want. To make you feel a bit surer about the whole thing, here are a couple of tips to avoid looking like a douche:
- Don't have 'moves'. If you look like you have a practiced 'routine' you will look like a complete idiot. It's about spontaneity.
- Move your feet. A lot of guys 'dance' with their feet firmly planted on the deck, while pumping their bodies up and down. Girls love a guy that actually moves his feet, even if it's just a bit. Turn around, take a sidestep, take a step forward. Just don't think your Michael Jackson.
- Have a laugh. Be silly. As i said before, it's about spontaneity. Looking all 'cool' and 'professional' is not what the girl wants. Try things, mess up, get awkward. You'll be in for an evening of good laughs, and you will bond with the girl. If your trying to act excessively 'cool' she will think you have the personality of an ice pick.
- When slow-dancing take the lead. Make her turn around, go places. Women melt at the guidance of a firm hand in an appropriate place. Her waist that is. Not below, not above. Take her right hand in your left and keep it close. Much more romantic than both hands on her waist.
For the rest: Proms are awesome, have a lot of fun, pay attention to your date, but don't forget that at your prom you are celebrating something you share with your friends. Don't ignore them, and keep it in mind at her prom as well. You are actually there to support her in celebrating things with her friends. It's HER prom, just as yours is YOURS.
Well it will be a new experience and il just have to learn like everyone else and enjoy it in the process, which I probably will. 2 days and counting! Thanks for all the help everyone.
This puts what i wanted to say far more eloquently than i could have hoped too.
Bottom line, have fun!
I will definitely be trying that.
But in all realness, just be relaxed like a few other posters have said. 100% agree on the routine thing. You can do it for one dance, but then that's it. Otherwise it does not look good at all. Keep the feet moving, laugh, make sure she laughs, and throw in the "sprinkler" once every 4 songs and you'll be good.