Hey all. Normally I'm the guy giving advice, but today I'm looking for some help.

My girlfriend and I have been living together for almost a year, and we are quite happy together. In fact, we are planning on marriage as soon as we can afford to pay for the wedding ourselves.  

Her parents have been clear they are against us being together. They tend to be rude during conversations and complain a lot. Complaints about me range from my career as a salesman to my choice of clothes. They have thrown full-blown temper-tantrums when we refused to drive an hour to their old house and do yardwork/clean it unless they would agree to let me buy them dinner or at least spend some time together. They constantly accuse me of controlling her--because since she met me she has learned to stand up to them and be her own woman.

As I see it, they try to control her and want to be in charge of her life, from finances to decorating. Luckily they recently moved 5 hours away. The last straw for me was when they recently threatened to kill my GF's pet because we "shouldn't have any pets."

They've made it clear I'm not welcome in their home, but my GF insists I go to Thanksgiving at their house.

Personally, I don't want to dine people like these, who say barbaric things like "I'll kill your pets" at a public restaurant. God knows what they'll be like in their own home. I don't want to make my GF angry, but I don't know if I can continue on civily with them.

So, in short, if anyone has experience with people like this, or any advice, I'd really appreciate it.