Yesterday, I wrote a blog on pornography and masturbation. A topic some may see as a little heavy, but one I feel important to address as a man, knowing that men can very easily can get caught up in such a snare. And as men, one must know the dangers of those things which corrupt, or know how to break free from such vices whilst on the path to perfecting manliness.

There can be nothing more destructive for a man that to become embroiled in pornography and masturbation, and yet, it is often not mentioned among us for feelings of shame, guilt, embarrassment and the sense of unworthiness that follows. 

A real man must avoid such things, knowing that the end result is a distortion of the world and the opposite sex. It's has the potential to wreck one's character and to stunt one's growth towards real manliness. And yet, once a man gets caught up in such a snare, it then becomes almost impossible to break free.

A man must not believe the stories that this is just a harmless pastime, and that it's ok, because it's what us men do. Men who think this way will often have problems later on in married life, or will ultimately suffer at least some consequences if they are already married.

Please take a look at my blog on 'Pornography and Masturbation.'

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I think it is fine. Like any addiction though, if it becomes an addiction then that is a problem. If you happen to have some kind of issue with it, that seems to me a matter of personal opinion.

No offense, I can tell you mean well, but please take your time machine back to 1895.

Sorry you feel like this Steven. I can only say that although I respect your opinion, and it's one that many share, I have never seen a good outcome from such things. Never! Sooner or later, every action has a reaction.

Thanks 24z Alek.

I like what you said, "even though it would be easier not to." I seems that something so enjoyable and generally accepted by many should be ok. But there are so many who wish they had never started down such a path... not to mention the mess the porn stars get into themselves.

As for fighting temptations, it's a difficult path but by no means impossible. Self-control, filling the mind with something else, going for a run all help.

Good luck!

Wanking is totally normal. What's different in this era is the constant availability of online pron. Don't stop wanking; just stay away from the pron as much as you can. It'll make a big difference.

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A) Agreed, not a huge fan of having to go to your blog to read what you are trying to post on this blog, more so as it is just a not so subtle was to drive traffic to your blog.

B) He's opinion has no more or less merit then your's Sheilds, you both random guys spouting off on the internet. . .Just like the rest of us.

C) A life of pure indulgence is infinitely more destructive then a life of pure denial. More over, I don't think anyone is arguing for a life of denial. I think the argument is that self satisfying urges that are meant to help you connect to your wife is bad, not only for your marriage but for yourself as well. Personally I strongly agree.

I don't see a life with out porn or masturbation as denial as see it as a happy marriage,

What I was saying is that

no porn/masturbation =/= life of denial

What I was getting at with the happy marriage comment is that a happy marriage is my no means a life of denial. And in every case I've ever seen marriages were the husband is into porn is far from happy.

I've always considered sex without a relationship/feeling simply another form of masturbation, albeit a tad more complicated.

Your grandma used the word whore? Wow. 

Southerners, lol.

That is a whole new kettle of worms.

But personally, no I don't believe sex out side of marriage in any form is ok.

+1

It is NEVER okay.

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