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Permalink Reply by Nathan DeParis on January 23, 2013 at 11:45am

I read the one fro young men. That was a game changer for me. I don't think these guys are Catholic but honestly comparing this series with Christopher West's TOB, I saw minor differences but nothing really noticeable, which I was really glad about.

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Permalink Reply by Matt J K on January 23, 2013 at 1:17am

I have struggled a lot with porn addiction.  I used to view it for hours every day.  And I got totally, totally free, not viewing it for a few years.  However, after undergoing some major life changes, I ended up back involved in it again.  It takes some work to keep yourself clean of it.  I've started putting in the work again, and I'm doing much better.

One resource I'll name is an excellent free course you can take online called the Way of Purity at settingcaptivesfree.com.  It's a 60-day course that digs down to the root of your addiction and helps you rebuild your mind based on the scriptures.  This is very much a Christian based course, so expect the material to be based on that.

Good for you for reaching out for help.  You are definitely not alone.

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Permalink Reply by Settecase on January 23, 2013 at 5:15pm

Top three:
(1) ACCOUNTABILITY--who else cares that you are doing this?
(2) Pursue authentic, meaningful and non-sexual relationships with women
(3) PRAY, PRAY, PRAY
(4) Read and pray through the Psalms, esp. 51
(5) You need a mentor, a married man who is older than you and further along than you are. Wife, kids, and a record of responsible living. Someone who has conquered porn and wants to help you. A pastor might be good, or your father, or another man you respect if you want to keep it out of the family.

Then...

Read Every Man's Battle. I recommend finding that book, and the study guide, and a group of similarly-minded men to work through it with you. Also, get an accountability partner. Pray like the Dickens and learn to HATE porn. We return to the sins we still love, deep down. I know you hate it, but you need to REALLY hate it. Then, give yourself some grace if you don't conquer it all in one day. Little by little, you will kill the beast, but it might not be an all-at-once thing.

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Permalink Reply by Mudinyeri on January 24, 2013 at 1:47pm

First, I think the term "addiction" gets thrown around quite a bit without the user really understanding its meaning.  An addiction is "the continued use of a mood-altering substance or behavior despite adverse dependency consequences."  Some addictions have physical components.  All addictions have psychological and emotional components.  The addicted individual is attempting to alter their mood for a reason.  Moods are driven by psychological and emotional impetus.

With that said, the OP needs a short-term plan as well as a long-term plan.

In the short-term, he could sign up for an accountability tracker (assuming he's accessing porn on a computer) and have the reports sent to his mother.

Longer-term, the OP needs to understand and resolve the underlying reasons that he's trying to alter his mood.

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Permalink Reply by Michael B. on January 25, 2013 at 6:21am

Moods are part psychological, largely physiological.

 

The operative brain structure in addictions is the Nucleus accumbens, and the neurotransmitter involved is dopamine.

 

The physiological definition of addiction would be; an abnormal response to dopamine.

 

Now, there are chicken-and-egg arguments about addiction; does the addiction cause an abnormal response, or does the abnormal response cause the addiction?

 

In the case of pornography, the addiction creates the abnormal response by way of desensitization.

 

The biggest confusion is differentiating between; addiction, abuse, dependency.

 

However, treatment of any of those three begins the same; removing the offending substance or behavior.

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Permalink Reply by Joseph CB on January 28, 2013 at 5:41am

Porn or any sort of sex addiction is a toughie...and I think all of us men must admit we have had to face it in one form or another.  What make an individual more susceptible to porn than others? Who knows? But a good indicator that it has become a problem is the fact that it starts taking up more time in your life, that it is something that you go to regularly for mood regulation, and that it seems to linger in the back of your mind constantly.

What also makes sex/porn addiction something to take serious is the fact that it hits the pleasure centers of your brain with the potency of heroin. They say it is like getting all of the elation and emotional reward of completing a marathon without having to do anything.  And like Michael B said above that it creates desensitization...which may result in ramping up the intensity/ risk-taking. Many recovering sex addicts identify themselves as intimacy cripples...knowing that the addiction flourished in their self-isolating behaviors...and greatly hindered their ability to be able to maintain present realtionships or build future ones as long as they continued to act out.

To the OP: it is a great step of courage to admit and recognize the need for giving it up and recognizing your present powerlessness to the addiction.  YOu will have to walk through a time-period of "getting sober" from it, but you don't have to do it alone...as this is now a very common problem. Seek a group or resource that works for you...and you will see that it will be hard, but then it will get easier and then you will notice that you will feel good about yourself and your future again. 

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Permalink Reply by Salmon on January 28, 2013 at 11:10am

Just don't watch. Either porn videos or pics. Try to avoid.

Be with a real women!

You'll know that you are back to normal if you have an erection just by look at an attractive woman. (Not picture)

Remember my advice: If it's not real, don't

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Permalink Reply by Tom on January 28, 2013 at 2:35pm

YOU MAY want to find a C-SAT; a Certified Sex-Addiction Therapist.

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Permalink Reply by William on January 29, 2013 at 7:06am

ok block it on your computer go to the gym see friends if you feel low see your DR 

just work on things that are not making you happy it worked for me :) 

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