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Porn addicted, please help!
It's a problem common for many young men. And I hope art of manliness might pick this problem up for the young men.
However I'm addicted and I want to stop it's hard and though and I wondered if someone knows a good book, or if there's a way to stop it! I'm tired of it thanks for your time all!
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Permalink Reply by wicket on -
There is a website that can help. It is an accountability software that allows you to download a program that runs in the background of your PC or Mac. You select an accountability partner and each week, they will recieve an email report. If you haven't looked at anything questionable, there are no sites listed. If you do though, they see it.
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Permalink Reply by Nick H on -
go to the Christian men group and search through the various threads (stories). One of them dealt with this.
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Permalink Reply by Native Son on -
It is quite simple. Just stop. It's easy enough to avoid, and it doesn't take much dedicated self-control to avoid online sites. The stuff doesn't just "show up", it has to be sought out.
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Permalink Reply by Liam S. on -
If it has truly become an addiction, it may not be as easy as "just stop" - just as cold turkey doesn't work for everyone for smoking, or booze. There is a brain chemistry component to porn, which can make it similarly tricky to just quit.
So, yes, simple solution in theory - but not necessarily simple in implementation.
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Permalink Reply by Jack Bauer on -
Easier said than done. Easily-accessible naked women are difficult for healthy men to just quit. Understandably so. I don't buy the "addiction" nonsense, though. I think that's a cop-out. You're choosing it. You're succumbing to the temptation. Acknowledge that you're making the choice, and that its a tough thing to resist.
I'd liken it more to overeating than boozing or drugs. With booze and drugs ... you can quit completely and live a normal life. If you never touch the stuff again, you'll be fine. But, you have to eat to live, so overeaters can't quit completely and survive. They have to learn to control intake rather than just shut-it-off.
Same with porn. You don't need porn to live -- but, a healthy man needs a sex drive to live well. To cut-off the desire for porn at the source, you'd have to shut-off the attraction to naked women altogether. That's a good way to die alone. You need controlled intake, not cold-turkey. Controlled intake can be more difficult than cold-turkey.
Ultimately, you need to be accountable to somebody else. You can't control yourself here. I don't think firewalls or blockers work well ... you can get around them, and you're not going to trick yourself into this. You need somebody to hold you accountable. Put your computer in a public area. Find a way to have your history not-deletable, and accessable to somebody else.
JB
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Permalink Reply by Brian Splash on -
That's probably the best post I have read for a long time !
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Permalink Reply by JD Good on
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I have to disagree on the "accessibility" part. Accessibility is a big component of any self-control regime. For example, it's much harder to ruin a diet with chocolate if you never buy it when you shop, and consequently it is never in your house. So at least when you're craving it at 9pm and its snowing outside, the amount of effort required to satiate that craving isn't worth the effort of driving five miles in the snow.
Similarly for porn, and alcohol.
Is it foolproof? No. But it's a definite first step.
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Permalink Reply by Jack Bauer on
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That might be a better analogy if fat people could just download chocolate at 9pm when its snowing outside ... or, back in the days when men had to leave the house and skulk into some dingy movie shop to get porn. Anything I can put on my computer, I can get around. Hell, most cable has instant pay-per-view -- and an internet blocker ain't gonna touch that. To completely keep porn out of the house, you have to unplug from the rest of the world. Not exactly an option in this day-and-age.
Plus, I don't like the idea of padding my own walls so I won't hurt myself. What happens when I leave my padded house and I haven't learned not to hurt myself because I've just been bouncing off the padded walls? I'm gonna trip over the first obstacle, and bust my head open.
JB
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Permalink Reply by Michael on -
But if they do not have self control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to be inflamed.
Find a girl you can love AND that you like AND that shares the same outlook on children as you AND that shares the same outlook on finances as you, AND (based on the initiation of this thread) one that likes to have a hell of a lot of sex in a variety of ways. Then marry her.
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Permalink Reply by Rick Shelton on -
It doesn't matter, married, head-over-heels-in-love, or not. What the addiction is has nothing to do with the sight it has to do with the brain chemistry that comes with sexual pleasure, here I am assuming that when he looks at porn he is masturbating; if not he is a very different animal than most others. So, even if he finds a woman that LOVES sex the attraction of porn would still be there.
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