Does it, or would it, offend you to be invited/attend a marriage ceremony that was not recognized by the civil government because a civil marriage ceremony had taken place earlier, or was scheduled for later, or the marriage was of a kind not allowed under that state's laws?
The wedding-planning forums, the closest thing to "AoM for women" out there, see this as strictly an etiquette issue. The "real wedding" is whatever is recognized by the state government, anything else, such as a separate religious ceremony or a second ceremony so both the bride's and groom's family traditions are entirely celebrated, is a "fake wedding" and a "pretty princess day," and offensive. Such "fake weddings" are only OK if the couple tells all their guests (I guess in the invitations) that they are being invited to a "fake wedding." Then the guests can be offended and refuse to come.
My understanding is such "fake weddings" are common in Europe. The Prince and Princess of Monaco followed this procedure. They had a small civil ceremony with a very large Nuptial Mass the next day. Some friends of mine who got married in Austria, or who got married at the courthouse in Arizona and then got married at a large Nuptial Mass in Austria, also did this. Prince Charles and Camilla did something similar with a civil marriage followed by a religious blessing.
And various ordinary Americans do it because their weddings are abroad in countries with residency requirements, or their choice of officiant isn't qualified under their state's laws, or the marriage is a kind not allowed under that state's laws.
I'm wondering if "people" are really offended by the idea, or if it's just a certain set of women.
if you take a moment to read, it was in response to others talking about gay marriage, and some disparing remarks. And, when would you think it a good time to discuss LGBT rights? Should I just sit quietly and wait for others to bring it up, which, has been clearly stated, now is not the time, and others dont care, it doesnt effect them. Should I sit on my hands and hope? Should I "throttle back" because it offends people? Its not nice? Have you read about the civil rights movement? read about harvey milk? read about ghandi? just some examples of folks that decided they didnt just want to wait till folks were comfortable to talk about things.
Im sure your advice is well intentioned. I appreciate your taking the time to respond to me, but Im sorry, I cant sit down and be a good boy. Im a grown man and I wont accept the way homosexuals are treated in our nation. There are a lot of folks that have never met a gay person, have no idea what its like to be a gay person, have never been treated like a gay person. Its the next step....religious freedom, racial freedom, gender freedom......and the fight is the same.
"And, when would you think it a good time to discuss LGBT rights?"
Anytime you feel like writing letters to your local/county level representatives and eating lunch with them, or helping to organize the effort, not showing your ass during something completely unrelated. it makes the majority of people think you're a prick and not want to support you.
You should throttle back because your sexuality has zero to do with her question.
Furthermore I question you're sincerity to change considering you obviously support Ghandi who was more racist than hitler, and extremely violent even supporting Adolf Hitler:
“This manslaughter must be stopped. You are losing; if you persist, it will only result in greater bloodshed. Hitler is not a bad man.” ~ G.D. Birla’s “In the Shadow of the Mahatma,” p. 276
We all know about that one genocide initiated by good Adolf during that period. You should also know about his politics relating to LGBT rights. How can you support someone like this?
Concerning South Africa's White League fears of mass Asiatic immigration: “We believe as much in the purity of race as we think they do, only we believe that they would best serve these interests, which are as dear to us as to them, by advocating the purity of all races, and not one alone. We believe also that the white race of South Africa should be the predominating race.” ~ CWMG, Vol. I, p. 105
You should also know about corrective rape in south africa:
Uh, ok. And, of course, the landing on the moon was a hoax.
See, the difference between the moon landing and the quotes of Ghandi that have been verified is the following:
I can use phyics to verify the pendulum experiement because the mg on the moon is different than mg on earth. Strangely enough, my Ghandi quotes come from primary sources which is the eq to the laws of kinematics on the moon.
For Ghandi, you're just not realizing you were only taught the Ghandi the Myth, not Ghandi the Man. Feel free to look them up, hence why I cited them for you.
Example of what I'm talking about, just saw this on theknot under the heading "This really annoys me":
So today I logon to facebook and see a post from a friend "Just ate the top of our wedding cake. Happy one year anniversary to my husband!" What annoys me is this is not their actually wedding anniversary. They had gotten married in front of a JOP the November before. They got married in that November because they "couldn't stand to not to be married to each other anymore and couldn't wait" and also because they "Got a tax break". Now a year ago they "officially" got married with a big wedding ceremony with bridesmaids and groomsman. Then they had a huge reception afterwords. I know and remember that the real anniversary was in November and now she is trying to play it off as oh we got married a year ago yay!.
LMFAO! You had to have made that up?!?!
Wait. No you didn't. That's too stupid to not be true. "Is this wrinkled blue dress manly?"
I agree that that's ridiculous. The formal event that they after they'd already been married should have simply been a wedding reception. (Which I do think would be fine, since it gives their friends and loved ones and opportunity to celebrate the marriage belatedly). It should not have included a ceremony. That is not their wedding and they should not consider that day to be their wedding anniversary.
They got married in that November because they "couldn't stand to not to be married to each other anymore and couldn't wait"
These people sound like idiots who completely lack discipline or discretion.
"I know and remember that the real anniversary was in November and now she is trying to play it off as oh we got married a year ago yay!."
I'm sure she sent you that message so that you would rejoice with her, Rebekah. But for the sake of clarity, are you upset because she's attempting to get away with having two anniversary dates? Two celebrations? Had she previously sent you a similar message in November? I could understand being annoyed if that's the case, but if instead she's choosing to recognize one date over the over, I'm afraid I don't understand your annoyance with her.
I'm sorry, Rebekah. I just realized that that was an example you were using. It didn't register earlier for some reason. Nevermind.
It would be very offensive only if I were there. I only show up for the free booze and the fact women for some reason tend to spread their legs more easily shortly afterwards. In all seriousness, people don't really care about "legit" unless they have mental disorders.
However, I strongly advise against getting married for a wide array of reasons. Think about all the other men (or women) you could be seeing?
If your mindset is that marriage limits the amount of women you can bed then I agree with you, don't get married. You might wake up someday when you are old and alone and regret that path but then again, if you rush into marriage to the wrong one you might regret that more. So who knows? But not everyone has that aspiration in life. For some, the thought of sharing their life with another is more appealing and I don't think it should be considered a mental disorder.