Need Advice From Other Fathers
Hello, I'm new here and this is my first post. I need some guidance right now as I'm in a bad place. I have a 14 year old son. On Friday of last week he walked in on my "private time" with myself. Since then we've gone from buddies to acquaintances and I don't know what to do. He won't look me in the eye, barely speaks to me with the exception of 1 word answers or quick communication, keeps to his room, etc.
I did not mean for that to happen. I had forgotten he was off from school and took to my business when I woke up only to have him open his door and come to my room with a "hey Dad guess what;" I think we both were mortified. I apologized and he said OK. Now I have this situation.
I should have double checked the house, I should have had my door closed, it should have been locked, etc. It is ultimately my fault. He's at a tough age. We never had the official "sex talk," but I've told him to be safe now that's he's older and may make adult decisions. I failed with that and admit it.
So where do I go from here as a single father? Do I force a sit down conversation and clear the air? Do I continue to let this go until he's over it? Clearly he must know that a man has needs by now and I'm confused at why this was a big deal. Uncomfortable and I wish it never happened? Yes. But on some level, it's also natural.
Thanks!
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Permalink Reply by Rick Shelton on -
He's embarassed and he's a teenager. At that age, even if you (the father) stumble getting into the car you're "Ebarassing Him". Because he's not mature yet he gets angry with what embarasses him, you, his mother, his sister, his little brother... That part you need to understand and simply deal with until he grows out of this stage.
Now, for the other part. You NEED to have the 'talk' with him. Especially if you're a single father. Let him know that masturbation is normal, even in when you're in a relationship but let him know also, that too much masturbation isn't normal and can hurt in the long run. Let him know you're sorry for not locking the door (but not for the masturbation part). And from now on, lock the damn door even if you think you're alone.
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Permalink Reply by JonEdanger on -
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